(Closed) Woohoo! Picking a ring after 10 years! But fiancé hates the ring I want…

posted 5 years ago in Rings
  • poll: What would you do?
    Pick the ring you love : (112 votes)
    80 %
    Compromise with fiancé on style : (28 votes)
    20 %
  • Post # 2
    2176 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: February 2016

    He can’t have it both ways. He said for you to pick what you love, so pick what YOU love. 

    Post # 3
    1534 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2014

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    p1ally:  Is there a third ring that yall can find that you both agree on? Maybe neither ring is for you!

    I have a halo too which I love, but personally in this case, I like his choice better.

    Post # 4
    6296 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 2009 - New York, NY

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    leekissesme:  This exactly.  If he’s leaving the decision to you, get the ring you love.  

    Post # 5
    489 posts
    Helper bee

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    p1ally:  I would look for something that kind of combines what you two both love! Even though he said to pick what you love, I would consider his feelings as well.

    Here are a few choices:


    Post # 6
    11533 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    I’m not on the ring boards enough to know who has the kind of rings that I am going to try to describe, but I know that there are bees who have them.

    I’ve seen some absolutely gorgeous rings that have halos, but the head of the ring is designed in such a way that the halo is much less prominent than the type that you have chosen. Perhaps your SO would warm up to that type of setting.

    Post # 7
    1011 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2017

    Definitely pick the ring you love, you are the one wearing it! None of us would want to drop money on an expensive gift that the receiver doesn’t love so why should engagement rings be any different?! My Fiance wasn’t a fan of the ring I picked but quickly changed his tune when he saw how much I loved it.

    Congrats on your engagement!

    Post # 8
    252 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: City, State

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    p1ally:  I compromised because my DH didn’t want a halo either and I resented him for months. I only recently got over it. Like, one month after being married I got over it. 

    Post # 9
    66 posts
    Worker bee

    I feel ya! Our 10 year is coming up in a few months and for my upgrade I want a solitaire. DH hates them lol thinks they are boring and cheap looking -_- He loves 3 stones, which are beautiful but just arent me. We went back and forth for awhile, tried to compromise on styles I liked but of course werent up to par with what he had in mind. So he finally was just like… get what you like. It was important for me to have him included, and have some input on the style for awhile but he insisted that it was more important for me to have the ring I love. So I am going with a solitaire. I told him for our 20th he can get me whatever he wants xD  

    Post # 10
    558 posts
    Busy bee

    Congratulations on your engagement! I think I understand how you’re feeling, it’s important for you that he likes the ring too. What about a solitaire cushion without the halo? Like this you have each of both worlds? In the other hand, it’s a bit contradictive to ask you to choose what you want specifically knowing how picky you’re, and not respecting the choice he gave you.

    Moissaniteco has some cushion cut rings that have the halo like under the stone? Maybe is something in between both options? Like this one:

    ETA: I should also add that I may be biased because I love single and double haloes, and at the end my Fiance loved my dream ring too.

    • This reply was modified 5 years ago by  MrsLerca2be.
    Post # 11
    333 posts
    Helper bee

    As a huge halo fan, I would say go for it! He said pick the ring you want, nd you have to wear it forever. He can pick out the ring he wears forever. End of story.  It’s a gift for you to show his intent to make you his wife.  You should love it.  He should love his ring.

    Post # 13
    1908 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

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    MrsLerca2be:  I think the style you posted would be a perfect compromise.

    Post # 14
    531 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2016

    You will wear the ring forever . Go with your heart and the ring you love. You can go with his style for the next jewellery he gifts you 😉

    Post # 15
    1260 posts
    Bumble bee

    Nah. You’re wearing it, so it’s important that it’s your style. We each chose rings that the other person wasn’t crazy about, but they grew on us — and we each have something that’s really “our” own style.

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