(Closed) Woohoo! Picking a ring after 10 years! But fiancé hates the ring I want…

posted 5 years ago in Rings
  • poll: What would you do?

    Pick the ring you love

    Compromise with fiancé on style

  • Post # 31
    660 posts
    Busy bee

    He will grow to love it get what you want you deserve it!

    Post # 32
    96 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    Man, that’s a hard poll. I sort of lived through a similar thing. When we first got engaged, he told me to pick the ring I loved, which I did. Later, he hesistantly confessed he did not like my ring. That made me so sad. He said he wanted me to have whatever ring I wanted, so he didn’t say anything. I wish he had spoken up earlier, because knowing after the fact that he wasn’t as thrilled with “our” ring as I was, well it made me sad. For our 5th anniversary he wanted to upgrade my stone, which was not a good stone, we didn’t know what we were doing at first. We decided to do simply do a whole new ring. This time, our deal was: HE could pick out the stone, and I could pick out the setting. I must say I LOVE it now when he grabs my hand to look at OUR ring. Warms my heart, and he never did that with the first ring. He LOVES the quality of the stone he chose and is very proud of it, and I love the setting I picked for it. We both love the new ring. 

    So… long story short… not sure what advice to give you. A woman SHOULD absolutely love her engagement ring. On the other hand, it makes it extra special when her husband loves it too. 

    Post # 33
    489 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2017 - Canvas Event Space

    When I started looking for mine, I found one I loved and got very attached to it but Fiance really wasn’t into – long story short, I really wanted his input and for him to like it when he looked at it so we agreed on some general things we both liked and didn’t like. When we went shopping we actually liked different ones and I got final say 😉

    I didn’t get my original choice but I’m still in love with the one I ended up with and I’m glad we “collaborated” on the choice. 

    Post # 34
    762 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2015 - Backyard

    I also don’t like halo’s and feel they detract from the center stone – unless they are tiny halo’s. Maybe get one with a super tiny halo and he’ll probably like it?

    Post # 35
    485 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2017

    I personally don’t care for halos and after they distract from the main stone but if that’s what you have your heart set on I think you should get what you want. It’ll be on your finger everyday and you don’t want to feel disappointed about it.  He will love how excited you get about the ring even if it’s not his style.

    Post # 36
    2662 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

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    p1ally:  I think you should get the ring that you love. I picked out my ring with DH and there was one I’d seen online that was my favorite. I loved it in person and no amount of them showing me alternatives and more expensive rings ever swayed my love for this original ring. The only thing holding me back was that DH said it ‘looks like a t.v.’ (sales assistant looked at him like he’d lost his mind, as did I) because the round diamond is set in a square-ish setting. I wanted him to love it too and didn’t want to spend lots of money on something he didn’t love. But when I got to my final three I just couldn’t justify spending so much money on a ring I wasn’t entirely in love with! DH bought the ring I love and has since fallen in love with it too. 2.5 years later and he still picks up my hand to admire it 🙂

    So get what you love and you fiance will follow suit! Congratulations on your engagement 🙂 !

    Post # 37
    4250 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2016 - Manhattan, NY

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    p1ally:  When my Fiance and I discussed our timeline and he asked me what kind of ring I wanted, I knew I wanted a marquise, even before I had ever tried one on! I think he was surprised by my choice and he was asking me if I was sure, he had concerns about it catching on things, but I told him that’s what I wanted. I went to try one on and even designed a ring on James Allen to give him an idea of what I liked. And you know what? However he felt about marquises didn’t matter because he designed my beautiful ring and is so happy that I’m in love with it. I also always get compliments on my ring, which he also loves lol You’re the one that will be wearing this ring for the rest of your life (if you don’t plan to upgrade) so you should be happy to wear it every day 🙂

    Post # 38
    329 posts
    Helper bee

    You’re wearing it, you’ve gotta love it. Pick the ring you love, and he can wear whatever ring he loves. There’s your compromise.

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