Post # 17
I’m Viet-American and the FH is Irish-American. As much as I would love to I am not having an asian tea ceremony…partly for fear of spilling the tea cup or presenting it with one hand by mistake and disgracig the family. (oh the drama if that happens!) Since there is no tea ceremony I am adding our cultural fabulousity in the decor.
All things Asian: 3 different types of orchids, teas, bamboo, black river rock(very zen) our height limitations (lol), fans, parasils, possible having the dragon dancers, etc..
All things Irish: GUINNESS, Bells of Irish, green clovers, Irish Love Knot, Since he’s a Fireman we thinking of having the Pipes & Drummers play, his tall family etc…
We are even having a family football game the weekend before and I’ve decided “The (far) East meets West showdown”. (including team T-Shirts BABY!) The kids will partake in the after hour drink feast we’ve planned too! Only I have a sneaking suspician his side is going to drink us under the table! Only us Asians are quick on our feet, fast & very competitive when it comes to sports.
How are you incorporating your different cultures into your wedding besides the tea ceremony?
Post # 18
hi all! i’m cambodian-chinese and my Fiance is chinese. we had a 2 day multicultural wedding : tea ceremony on first day (<15 ppl), then on the 2nd day, a full length cambodian ceremony (~ 100 ppl at our house), church ceremony (~ 250) and reception (375 total!) . it was hella long and i’m glad its over with!
our wedding was very traditional in asian aspects – i wore a cheongsam and we borrowed a red "long life" tea set from my in-laws’ friends who got their tea set as a wedding gift. for the cambodian ceremony, i wore the traditional 3 different outfits, we had a live cambodian band during the morning traditional ceremony, had traditional flowers imported, my cousins made authentic cambodian desserts all by hand (shaved coconuts by hand all week long), and featured a modern band playing rock music at night. we had a chinese banquet, with cake from a chinese bakery, and concluded with cambodian dancing at the end of the night. we even gave out wedding favors imported from cambodia too.
Post # 19
I’m korean and my Fiance is chinese and we’re getting married Sept 2009. We’re actually trying to figure out a way to incorporate both the traditional chinese tea ceremony and the korean ceremony (pae baek) into our wedding plans.
Our parents were fine with us not doing anything traditional and just having the western wedding but Fiance and I are both very close to our families and proud of our cultural backgrounds so we wanted to do it. Plus I think it’ll be fun to wear all the different dresses. I already have my wedding dress and qipao and will be having a hanbok made later.
Because we’re trying to fit in the tea ceremony and pae baek ontop of our regular ceremony, we’re trying to condense things and keep things simple. We’re planning on having an extended cocktail hour and performing the ceremonies then so that our guests have the option of watching only if they want to.
Time may be tight but it should be an awesome experience!
Post # 20
I’m Lori (half Chinese) and marrying Brian (Italian white boy). We’re getting married in November here in Atlanta. We will be having a traditional American ceremony & reception, but will be having a small Chinese banquet as our rehearsal dinner. I plan on wearing a white empire evening gown as my dress for the ceremony & reception, and will just wear the qi pao at the rehearsal "banquet".
Is anyone wearing a qi pao that isn’t red? I have to say that it’s not the most flattering color on me, and I’m planning on wearing a black one with red emboidery on it.
Post # 21
mingaling – i’ve seen other brides not wear red – i’ve seen pink and my friend even wore a white one! i think you can wear whatever color you want, but i would probably run it by parents and grandparents first unless you don’t care what they have to say.
Post # 22
i’m chinese and the Fiance is korean. we’re having a 160 person american wedding in new york city. but we wanted to incorporate some culture so have decided to do a paebaek during the reception which also serves double duty as the chinese tea ceremony since they both involve tea and bowing 🙂 not sure how the "elders" will think about this but I really needed to kill 2 birds with one stone.
i’m in awe of those who are doing both an american and an asian style wedding. I can barely plan one!!
Post # 23
Hi and congrats to all!!
I just got in engaged a few days ago and just starting my research. I am Vietnamese and my FH is Colombian. We haven’t really decided on much — except for the fact that we do not want to start our lives together with a huge debt.
With that being said, any advice and words of wisdom any one would be willing to offer would be graciously appreciated.
I am currently researching to see the different venues available in Orange County, CA that allows or has chinese food. I have found a few references to The Villa from Lifetime Wedding, Royal Banquet (don’t know the complete name) and Prince Seafood. The first two are in Westminster and the last is in Cerritos. Wondering if any one has any experience with them. Any feed back would be greatly appreciated!
Best wishes and good luck to everyone!
Post # 24
I’m Amy (2nd Generation Korean American from So Cal Currently living in DC) and my FH is White from NJ. We met in law school and have been together ever since.
We are currently planning a wedding for 2010 in Southern California. It’ll be mostly western, but we may do the Pae’bak the next day (Great Idea Mrs. Caramel). We’re currently on the hunt with our great wedding coordinator Paola from Just Chic Events for a venue in Southern California, preferably outdoors that can accommodate about 200-250 that allows outside caterers and will allow us to party until at LEAST 10pm on a Saturday evening that is not going to make us grow broke (if you got suggestions, let me know). Since we’re planning from DC, Paola has been a god-sent. I haven’t even given her her deposit yet and we communicate like 5 x a day. Amazing.
I’ve been blogging about all my venue research and my wedding journey. Take a look, let me know what you think – comments and especially suggestions are very welcome 🙂
Post # 25
<span style=”font-size: 7.5pt; font-family: ‘Verdana’,’sans-serif'”>Hey yall! I’m Jenny, Half Korean, half everything else. Mr. Popcorn is part Polish, part Irish and a mix of other. So, we’re both Ketchup. <span style=”font-size: 7.5pt; font-family: ‘Verdana’,’sans-serif'”>We’re currently in Vegas, but want to be married back home in Washington State where most of our family and friends are. We don’t have a date yet, but like the fall. <span style=”font-size: 7.5pt; font-family: ‘Verdana’,’sans-serif'”>I’ve thought about wearing the hanbook, but it’s not very flattering and think I like the hwarrot or wonsam better. For now though I’m looking at a western white dress. I don’t know if Mr. Popcorn would go for wearing the traditional Korean wedding garb as he jokingly said he was going to wear overalls. I also thought of presenting Mr. Popcorn with a live butterfly. I once read a story written by a Korean nun.. I can’t remember all of the details, but it went something along the lines of… a long long time a go, a young Korean couple was married and the families disapproved. Some how the man was killed. His bride mourned her husbands death by his graveside until she died. Every day she wore the beautifully colored gown hanbook, and when she died she turned into a butterfly and flew above his grave. I’d like to get the <span style=”font-size: 7.5pt; font-family: ‘Gulim’,’sans-serif'”>ì›ì•™<span style=”font-size: 7.5pt; font-family: ‘Verdana’,’sans-serif'”> won ang or <font face=”Times New Roman” size=”3″>kirogi</font><span style=”font-size: 7.5pt; font-family: ‘Verdana’,’sans-serif'”> (wedding birds) and have Mr. Popcorn present them to my folks. Instead of the won ang or Kirogi though I though maybe replace them with <span style=”font-size: 7.5pt; font-family: ‘Verdana’,’sans-serif'”>penguins because Mr. Popcorn likes them and they mate for life. Thought about doing the date or chestnut tossing part of the Korean ceremony but we aren’t planning on any kids so, that might raise some unwanted questions. I like the idea of the joining of two families, but these days in western civilization it’s not so much about the joining of two families as of two individuals. With that said I’d like the ceremony to be about the joining of Mr. Popcorn and I and the planning and reception to be about the joining of our "2" families, really 3 as his folks are two separate families. More symbolic things for bringing our 3 families together to support us not for social latter climbing or to gain financial prowess. I’ve been reading up on Korean wedding traditions and it seems there’s a lot that happens between the families before the wedding and the wedding itself is more of a ceremony between the couple and a witness. Which is fine with me, but I’d like to have a nice party with my friends and family after our ceremony like most modern westerners. I have yet to look into Irish and Polish wedding traditions. I read somewhere about the bride covering her eyes as she walked down the aisle. Kind of incorporates the veil thing into a wedding, but I don’t know the Korean symbolism behind it. I thought about doing the opposite of that based on something my mother told me once trying to give me advice about dating and marriage. She told me "When you are young, to keep your eyes and ears open, when you get married you shut them off from everyone else but your husband". What she meant was that before you get married keep yourself open for the one you want to marry and learn. Once you get married your relationship is for you and your husband to work on not everyone else and you should only be looking for and at each-other. So instead of walking down the aisle with my face hidden, I thought we’d work it into our ceremony of veiling us together after we’ve said I DO, and possibly leaving the ceremony veiled although that probably wouldn’t make for great pictures huh? I know there is more I just can’t think of it at the moment too many ideas jumbled around in my head.. MMM and the rainbow rice cake haha I don’t know what it’s called but if you’re Korean I bet you know what I’m talking about.
Post # 26
I’ve been reading boards from a number of wedding sites for months now, and I’ve just decided to "dive in" this past weekend and finally post!
I’m Chinese-American and Fiance is my good ‘ol boy from Tennessee. 🙂 We got engaged Sept 2008, and are just starting the wedding planning process. The plan is a Late Spring/Early Summer 2010 wedding, as Fiance is serving in the air force as an officer in S. Korea for the next year or so. That being said, making big decisions without him is a struggle. 🙁 We’re looking at venues in both Columbus and Cincinnati, OH, but until we find an auspicious date, we can’t do much with it.
Finding a good day for the wedding has been my biggest issue thus far, and my parents aren’t helping much. My mom is not always the most rational, and my parents both think it’s too early to find a date in 2010. Thus, they’re not working too hard at finding someone to pick our day for us. I’m trying to tell them that these days it’s important to book even up to a year early… but still slow moving. At first, they said this guy they know that does this calendar watching for a career is too booked, but would get back to us in a month. Now I’m being told he just said to call back in a month to CHECK to see if he’d have time. NOW WHAT?! I don’t want to wait and miss a chance on a perfect venue and then have to wait even longer when the guy says he doesn’t have the time to find a good date for us. He needs our birth dates? I started to look on dates online, but they don’t take into account Fiance and my birthdays. Anybody know about auspicious dates in May or June in general that may work as our backup?
I have my heart set on late May or early June (Sunday or Memorial Day weekend would be ideal!), but because of this whole auspicious date thing, chances are slim. My mom claims she heard from someone that getting married in June (midyear) wasn’t good. Is she crazy or is this a legit saying?
AHHH! Stressed, and feeling helpless. It only adds to my needing to hop on sites like these to vent and feel as though someone is actually listening.
Nice to meet all of you lovely ladies! Looking forward to sharing ideas and such with all of you!
Post # 27
Hi Fellow East Asianers! I’m Chinese (canto) and my Fiance is half Chinese and half Vietnamese, and we’re getting married in Sept 2009. We are doing the Tea Ceremony with door games. I love the door games! We’re not having a Chinese Banquet, so we’re going to use Chinese Take Out boxes as our favor boxes to incorporate our Asianess to it.
Luckily, my mom, while still superstitious, has been quite lenient in letting us pick our own date (for both the wedding and the engagement party!) and make our own decisions. We didn’t even have to do the stars and horoscope match thing!
Post # 28
woohoo! awesome section! anyways…
i’m filipino, chinese, arabic… what a mix! but mostly filipino. FH is 100% chinese (cantonese).
our rehearsal dinner is going to be chinese banquet style. our ceremony will be a catholic ceremony with traditional filipino/spanish ceremony traditions. chinese tea ceremony to follow– i’ll be in a cheongsam (chinese red dress) and he’ll be in a barong (traditional filipino formal shirt). then our reception is western style in a hotel. and then the next day, in filipino tradition, we’ll be having a filipino food catered brunch for just our families and some out of town guests.
i’m so excited!
Post # 29
i’m vietnamese/chinese and he’s japanese. asian theme wedding. would love to wear ao dai in the morning for the tea ceremony, but have trouble deciding where to get an ao dai or order it online. then white dress for the western evening ceremony and cheongsam for the reception.
Post # 30
I’m basically german-american and my fiance is vietnamese. I’ll be wearing an ao dai for the morning ceremony at my parents house with a lite lunch afterwards. We are traveling to LA to have the ao dai made for me, which is what both of his sister’s did. Then we’ll have a western ceremony and dinner reception in the evening wearing a traditional western dress, though I haven’t decided if I want white yet. I’d love a blue dress.
Post # 31
Hello, fellow East Asian brides! I’m Chinese (canto), and my fiance is Vietnamese. We will add a lot of tradition into the wedding, and I’m not so sure I’m prepared. I’ve only been to 1.5 traditional Asian weddings, and I feel like I need to do a lot of research to be prepared. I will be wearing an ao dai, cheong sam, and a pretty white wedding dress. We will have the morning ceremony with both Chinese (tea ceremony) and Vietnamese traditions. Our reception will be held in a Chinese restaurant in Philadelphia for family style banquet fun. I will try to add my own twist to this traditional wedding with plenty of DIY projects.