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posted 7 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
2084 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 1993

Hi! I googled “wedding poem, invited to ceremony but not reception” and got this from an etiquette site. Its totally none of my business and I’m not trying to be snarky but before I attempt a poem, I thought I’d share:


I recently received an invitation to a wedding reception but not the ceremony. Apparently the church is very small. Is this acceptable?



More and more couples are opting to have intimate family ceremonies and larger receptions to include all their relatives and friends. You may feel like you’re missing out on the poignant part, but at least you’ll be there to party with the bride and groom. It is acceptable to extend an invite only to the reception. But it is never acceptable to extend an invitation only to the ceremony if you’re also having a reception.


Presuming you still plan on doing it, how about this: (Bear in mind I’m making this up as I type…)

A million thanks for your presence today,

You’ve made it really perfect.

In celebration of our marriage.

Please join us at our service.

We’d love to have you there throughout,

But our venue can’t support it

We hope that you can understand

Because you make our lives so perfect.


I know it’s super cheesy, but gets the point across?


Post # 4
236 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

If you are planning on only inviting some people to the reception, I would be very upfront about it.  I would not wait until after the guests are leaving the bridal shower – let them know BEFORE the bridal shower.  At least then they will be able to decide whether or not they want to attend the shower, knowing they won’t be invited to celebrate with you at your wedding.  

Also, how many people are you inviting to the ceremony, but not the reception?  How many people will be attending the reception?  Maybe you can just include people (at the shower) that are invited to the reception…..

Post # 5
231 posts
Helper bee

@krobbie: I agree. I would only invite those people who you will be inviting throughout. If I received an invitation to a shower and a ceremony but not the reception I would feel somewhat put off. 


If you absolutely are positive you want to do this however, I would let everyone know prior to the bridal shower and have the invitation be for the ceremony only. No mention of reception and if people ask say it is a small intimate gathering for immediate family only. 

Post # 6
7587 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

I would be super offended. If someone invited me to their shower and not their entire wedding I would just view them as gift hungry. If someone then said oh come to the shower and the wedding, but you’re not important enough to feed, I would think they were even more gift hungry.

Post # 8
231 posts
Helper bee

What if you do the ceremony and reception and shower with only the people you will be inviting to everything and then have a backyard party of some sort to celebrate and you can invite everyone to that and just have it be casual. That way you can celebrate with everyone you want but have the wedding itself be intimate. 

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