(Closed) wording for honeymoon shower

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@StaceyM:  Hm…I don’t know if guests will really like the idea of a honeymoon shower, per say.

Since you asked for advice, I would probably do a “theme” shower, like stock the pantry, wine shower, lingerie shower, etc. You could have the hosts also spread the word that you have a honeymoon registry to those whom you don’t think it will offend. Then people can decide if they want to contribute to your honeymoon registry in addition to bringing a small physical gift. (You could even have a “honeymoon” theme shower and have everyone bring something- sunscreen, cute sunglasses, towels, lingerie, etc- for the honeymoon!).

Unless your culture generally does “money showers”, I can’t imagine a way to word this that won’t offend people. In my circles, the fun of the shower is to watch the guest of honor open gifts & for people to oohh and aahh. I don’t think people would be thrilled with a gift where the bride was opening cards. Every circle is different, though!

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@les105:  I agree.  Unfortunately OP, I don’t think this would go over well with many people.  The point of a shower is to “shower” the bride and groom with gifts (physical gifts).  I wouldn’t have a shower where all you asked was for people to contribute to your Honeymoon fund – that would essentially be a fundraiser for your Honeymoon and I’d bet many people would find that rude. =/  I agree with @les105:; you should have a themed shower or just decline the shower since you already have everything you need and have a lovely afternoon tea.  A honeymoon themed shower sounds like a lot of fun actually.  Then those who know about your Honeymoon registry can either get you something off of that and those who don’t like Honeymoon registries can get you a physical gift. 

As far as wording goes, it’s up to those hosting your party to decide if they want to include anything about registries in the invites and will depend on what type of shower you decide to go with.

PS: Where are you going for your HM?

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I tend to agree…if there aren’t presents to open its less of a shower…

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2011

I think a theme shower is a great idea and the theme should be “Honeymoon for the Lovebirds” (or something to that effect). That way guest can purchase things from your honeymoon registry or they can give you tangible gifts that are useful on your honeymoon.  You may even decide to register for travel themed items or things to use on your honeymoon, (luggage, towels, an ireader, etc).

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I agree with PPs, a money shower can be awkward unless your guests expect it. The honeymoon themed shower sounds fun. Maybe register at a department store for things you’d need for the trip like luggage, towels, sunscreen, bathing suits, etc. That will also give people a chance to buy from your Honeymoon registry if they want

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Agree with PPs.  Fundraisers are for charities, not weddings/honeymoons.

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@msfahrenheit:  Love this idea. 

ETA: I have a honeymoon registry, so I obviously have no problem with that, but I do agree that a shower isn’t quite the same without gifts to unwrap…which is why I love msfahrenheit’s idea. 

Post # 11
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 1992

We did this for my daughters up coming shower. She did register for house hold items and such but we also added that she is registered at such and such travel for their honeymoon.

That way the guest have a choice to either put money towards the honeymoon or purchase a physical gift.

Post # 13
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2012

sorry – double post

Post # 13
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I think it is okay to have a honeymoon shower – I am doing the same thing, StaceyM! We live across the country from where the wedding and shower are taking place. The shower is being hosted by my Future Mother-In-Law and will mostly be her friends and family. Fiance and I have been together 7 years and own our home, so there isn’t much we need. 

We aren’t asking for cash which I would have an issue with, but why be showered with gifts that I don’t need and which I will then have to pay to ship back to my home town?? I’d rather save the money on postage and get what we actually need – a honeymoon!

What we did do though is suggest that if guests want me to have something to actually open that they bring a wedding gag gift (think penis shaped gummies). And then the cards would be opened later in private.

We registered with a travel agency that basically lets guests call in to donate, they get a printable card which they can include in their card or just write the amount in a card. After we take our honeymoon (which has to be booked through the company) any leftover money is given to us cash with NO PENALTY! There are no extra charges either – every cent we get is ours!

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I’m loving the idea of a honeymoon themed shower, with theme being the operative word.  It’s the best of both worlds OP – you get some things you’ll need for your Honeymoon and people will also probably buy you things off your honeymoon registry.  You could really have fun with it and invite people to come dressed for the theme (flower print dresses, sunglasses, leis, etc) and have tropical drinks available to be served along with lots of yummy tropical fruits.   This would be so much fun. 

I think you will get a much better response, whilst still getting what you want, if you word it in this manner, rather than just stating that the bride and groom aren’t registering for gifts but would prefer contributions be made towards their honeymoon.  I think people would have a lot of fun buying you travel guides, sunscreen, sunhats, travel pillows but would also be likely to buy you a more substantial gift from your honeymoon registry.  

Good luck with this and let us know how it turns out – I think it could be a lot of fun!

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