Post # 1
My fiancé and I are getting married next August and because we have lived together for 3 years, we are politely declining any gifts as we have everything we need anyway. Therefore, we are applying a toonie bar at our reception, however, we are collecting toonies ourselves to “hand out” to our guests for the night as well as 3 bottles of wine at each table. We are trying to find a polite way of implementing the wording onto our wedding invitations. If anybody can help please let me know!
Post # 2
Well, my overall opinion is “don’t”. Cash bars are horrible.
But with that said, cash bar wordings I’ve seen include a small line on the bottom of the reception card or other info card simply stating “A toonie bar will be available during the reception”
Another comment though: I would highly recommend you hand out drink tickets or something. Handing out toonies and having a bunch of change on you during the wedding seems annoying and kinda trashy.
Post # 4
If you cannot afford to provide alcohol then serve non alcoholic refreshments. That’s my advice.
Also because you are declining wedding gifts and not registering does that mean you don’t want cash ? People will assume that no registry = bring cash gift. So they will give you money and have to pay for drinks at your wedding ??
I would be be turned all the way off by that.
Post # 5
Canadian $2 coin.
Op, I would advise against this. You have over a year and a half, you can easily save up for the bar. You aren’t going to ‘make’ much on your toonie bar anyways. And how will you hand them out? That just seems weird.
Post # 6
Have an open bar, politely say “no gifts necessary,” and I guarantee half of your guests will still bring you a cheque. That pays for your bar right there.
Also another vote for not handing out toonies. It does seem a bit trashy.
Post # 7
I don’t get the connection between “declining gifts”, which you really can’t control anyway, and a toonie bar. Especially when you say you are going to give them the toonies they then use to buy a drink.
Why not just provide whatever alcoholic beverages you choose, like any other good host?
Post # 8
I’m super confused. If you’re handing out the toonies (assuming its like a coin) then aren’t you paying for the bar?
What do you mean declining gifts? Like if I get you a card with a check inside, you’re going to give me by check back?
ETA- are you just giving toonies to certain people? that is kinda awkward. Also- do you make money on a toonie bar? Is that the point of it? I tried googling but found varying answers.
Post # 9
us Canadians are weird. A dollar coin is a loonie (named after the bird, a loon) and a two dollar coin is a toonie because it’s two loonies and clearly this logic makes complete sense….
Post # 10
I’m so lost. Why bother having a cash bar if you’re just going to give cash to people to use at the cash bar? Just host the bar.
Post # 11
Just don’t have a registry and most will bring you cash, thats literally how its been in any wedding I have been too.
I am sure you will appreciate the cash
Also don’t have a toonie bar, your wedding is a year and a half away thats plenty of time to save for an open bar, cash bars are tacky but id anything please do drink tickets not walking around with a bag of toonies .. reminds me of robin hood lol
Post # 12
haha! Thank you for the explanation. I had no idea!!
Post # 13
We are going to have 2 kegs of beer and 21 bottles of wine free for guests. When those are gone guuests will have to pay for drinks. Also we will have tickets we are handing out to the bridal party and families that are good for one free drink at the bar. What are your thoughts/opinions on this?
Post # 14
- Wedding: July 2017 - Vineyard on Long Island
Are you givng people toonies for them to then give the toonies to the bar to pay for drinks? Why not just pay for a limited open bar and hand people drink tickets if this is your route?
Post # 15
since you asked about giving out drink tickets I will tell you my thoughts: a drink ticket at a wedding or shower is…weird. Something I associate with state fairs or carnivals, not something that belongs in a wedding.