(Closed) Wording on invitations

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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Helper bee

We plan on putting that on our invitations 

Post # 4
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Honey bee

Do you need a comma, between the words formal and adult?

I’ve seen the attire request, in a bottom corner of the reception card. My family has black-tie weddings, but there’s always the one independent thinker, who wears khakis and a shirt.

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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

You don’t put either of those things on the invitation.

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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I wouldn’t put either of those things on the invitation. Your envelopes get addressed to specifically who IS invited. If a couple ends up RSVPing for additional family members then it is appropriate to call and tell them that you are sorry, but the invitation was only addressed to and meant for the couple. As far as attire, those people that wore jeans to a formal event are probably also the ones that will ignore a dress code written on an invite. Unfortunately, you can’t control how individuals dress themselves. Instead, the formality of your invitation should indicate the formality of the event. In your case I would send a fancy invitation! If you feel it’s necessary, it would be more appropriate to indicate attire on a website rather than the invitation, but still against etiquette. It also will probably get lost on those that you are trying to gear it toward. 

Post # 9
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Helper bee

My Future Brother-In-Law is getting married in a couple of weeks and their invites said that it is an ‘adults only black tie affair’ at the very very bottom of the invites. They also put “leave your jeans and flip flop at home” on their wedding website. To be fair, they also requested only cash gifts on the registry page…. So you take that however you want lol. No one really sticks to etiquette anymore. If they did, then people wouldn’t be showing up in their every day clothes. They’d be wearing the nicest thing they owned. 

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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

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hollysmith92:  It is never gracious to point out who is not invited. An invitation is a note from the host(s) to the guest(s) to inform them that they are invited and to provide them with all of the important details of the event. To single out who is not invited to the event is not a polite idea. 

Simply address the invitations to the invitees. If you want to convey that the wedding is formal, I would recommend a heavy ecru cardstock for your invitations with black engraved script. 

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

do you have a wedding website in which you can further divulge the details of attire? a lot of wedding websites these days advise their guests on what to wear depending on the location/ time of year/ whether it’s inside or outside- this can also be a simple way to put “attire:formal” or whatever within the text of your advice for the event.  for example, our ceremony/reception page of our website describes the possible weather changing-patterns of our location, plus gives the fact that since the ceremony/dinner are on a lawn, the bride suggests avoiding heels in preference of wedges/flats.  you can look at ours to get a better idea if you want: http://www.finallybartons.com , i think wedding websites and all the great info they supply are super common these days, and attire options/restrictions are absolutely something your guests will look for.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

Spread attire preferences by word of mouth and list out every name of the family who is invited on the invite. 

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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2016

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sealevels:  Completely unrelated, but where did you guys make these adorable couples graphics on your profile picture?

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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

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rtavs:  Seems like you figured it out, haha.

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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

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cierrabear:  Your wedding website is awesome!!

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