Post # 1
How are your invitations worded for a Jewish wedding? I did some research and found that we’re suppsed to use “and” instead of “to” between our names. For example:
Mr. & Mrs. Joe Shmo request of the pleasure of your company and the marriage of their daughter
Jonathan Benjamin Smith
Is that how you are doing it? It sounds a little odd to me…
Post # 3
Uhhh….where did you get that info? As far as I’m aware, there is absolutely no rule or tradition for Jewish wedding invitations. I even double checked just now in “The New Jewish Wedding” which is the source my Rabbi gave me to read–nothing like that is mentioned…it says”
The form of American Jewish wedding invitations has generally conformed to the dictates of secular etiquette. In many cases, the only indication on a wedding invitation that anything Jewish is going on is the location of the ceremony and perhaps a family name.
Think about it–they didn’t have invitations back in the shtetl because the whole community was invited so you didn’t need them. Any modern customs for invitations would have been derived simply from what the majority culture was doing so feel free to do whatever you want on the invitation.
Post # 4
@bearlove: Thanks! I actually found it on Emily Post… which isn’t quite the Jewish expert but just thought I’d see if anyone else was running into this.
Post # 5
@sandiegoh: I worded mine as
and my Future Mother-In-Law does invitations for a living, including many many Jewish wedding (including mine) and this was the “standard” so I think its fine.
Post # 6
I’m using “and”; I don’t like the idea of being “given away” and IMO a Jewish wedding celebrates the joining of two families, not the loss of a daughter. I’m also putting the Hebrew date under the secular date.
Post # 7
I think mine was just
Mr. and Mrs. XYZ request the honor of your presence at the wedding of their daughter
PS I like that you used Jane Rebecca, because I’m Rebecca Jane!
Post # 8
I had no idea this was a thing, I googled various sample wordings and we ended up using “and”, but thats what made sense as a sentance. If you are unsure about the wording, you can ask your/his parents what they think, I’m sure most people will not be concerned with what you choose in the end 🙂
our wording was like:
“The honor or your presence is requested at the marriage uniting
Post # 9
- Wedding: June 2010 - New York Botanical Garden
As far as I know there isn’t a jewish wedding wording for invitations that is any more or less expected than anything else – it’s sort of personal preference.
Post # 10
My Invitation Wording was the following (*Parents of Bride hosting wedding):
Mr. Adam Daniel (Last Name)
Post # 11
I think that the wording is grammatically correct, and it is respectful and lovely. Mazal tov.
Post # 12
I’m a religious and Jewish and we had NO formalities or “supposed to” about our invitation wording. We put our names on the same line and used AND in between.