- 6 years ago
- Wedding: June 2013
I am working a bit on our invites. My fiancee and i sat down last week to work on the guest list with parents. He comes from a huge family (think 13 aunts & uncles- and many many cousins!), and we want to cap the wedding at around 120…so we needed to get creative with invites.
We talked about just inviting his aunts and uncles, but then the wedding audience will be larger older and we’d love to have his cousins there! We also talked about inviting cousins over a certain age (i.e. those who are born in 1991 or later would not be invited), but that still gave us too big a guest list. We don’t want to pick his favourite cousins (i.e. not invite the ones that are over 30, or only certain children from each of his aunts and uncles) because we don’t want to cause drama and I think it isn’t good etiquette.
We’re thinking what we might do is give a certain number of invites to each of his aunts/uncles & their families, based on the number of their children. We thought 1/2 (rounded up for uneven numbers). For example, one of his aunts/uncles has 8 in the family (all the cousins are married), so they’d get 4 invites (plus theirs- making 6 total). Another single aunt has 3 kids, so she’d get 2 invites (plus hers).
Does this sound fair? Then they could chose based on who is free and would like to come, and I think in the end, the cousins who are closer to us will end up coming anyways as they’d be more inclined to come! I like the idea, my Fiance is on board, as is his mom and siblings..his one siblings wife thinks its “tacky” [at their wedding, they didn’t invite anyone born after the year 1989 i think, but that cuts out a huge portion of cousins that we’re actually close with if we were to do that)…but based on early sampling from his aunts and uncles, seems like maybe they approve?
So if that seems like an ok idea, I need to figure out how to word the rsvp as we’ll need to get names of those who come! I want to make it compact as possible…