(Closed) Wording on the BS&Wedding invites

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
1562 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

If you have a bridal shower, you need to plan on getting physical gifts that day.  You can set up your registry to have gifts only go to your house in CA, or make a small registry to signal that you prefer cash, but you can’t ask people to come to your shower, but mail the gifts to CA.

Post # 4
46672 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Ditto with the above advice. You can mention the issue on your website, if you have one.

One solution is to return the gifts to the stores in OH, get a credit or gift card and re-purchase them when you get home to CA.

Post # 5
7 posts
  • Wedding: May 2013

@TMB47:  I’m wondering about the same thing.  I’m living in PA.  A friend is throwing me a shower in my hometown in TX.  We are having a destination wedding in Vegas.  It makes for a lot of sticky travel and shipping situations.  


I’ve seen a lot of people posting saying you should never ask for gifts to be shipped.  But I’m wondering if they would change their tune if they were in this situation?  Free shipping is included from both stores where we are registered.  It would be no extra costs for my guests to ship, but it would be hundreds of dollars for me to do it.  Opening pictures of gifts is not quite the same, but who ever opens the box that holds the place setting/wine glasses/etc in the shower anyway?  


That being said, I’m hoping to take the easy way out of wording the shower invites–and leave that to my friend throwing the shower.  


I know my response isn’t that helpful.  But really if the shower is supposed to be attended just by the people who are very close friends/family, then they should understand your tricky situation.  If they don’t, perhaps they aren’t as close a friend as you thought they were?  Because really isn’t ettiqute/manners all about making everybody feel comfotable, and not just blindly following rules?  Sometimes I think that aspect is lost when people are giving advice.  

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