(Closed) Words I've come to hate

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 32
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Worker bee

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@laughs:  Yes… I esp hate when there are any ceremonies (funerals, weddings, baptisms, gratuations) and I am always on the side, not officially the part of the family!

Two of those are coming up, co I already feel sick in my stomach how I will feel and how these ceremonies only emphasize that I am that second class citizen.

 

Cry

Post # 34
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Sugar bee

“why can’t you just be happy with how we are now”

Post # 36
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

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@victoria86:  That sounds so sad! However, don’t take this the wrong way, but if these events really make you “sick to your stomach” and make you feel less than human, why do you go to them? I doubt the hostess/host at these events want people to feel “sick to their stomachs” over going to them and being given girlfriend status. Is it possible to “make other plans” and discreetly get out of going to these events?

Yes, girlfriend status is annoying – I was just at bridal shower this weekend and had to listen to the SO’s mom give this awkward intro about me while I did not know ANYONE. I was also like, “I could be doing all of this for nothing as there is no security with girlfriend status.” Selfish – I know, but you have to think of yourself or no one else will.

Anyway, I felt super akward especially since I have introvert tendencies. However, I saw a girl who also was a girlfriend and that’s it, yet she was very involved in the shower – taking notes when bride opened up gifts, captured the attention of our table, etc.. I think it’s really what you make of it – especially in 2013 when less and less couples are tying the knot.

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Sugar bee

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@beeeforeigocrazy:  lol yep. And it’s like obv I am happy now or else I wouldn’t want us moving forward…DUH!!!

Post # 39
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Helper bee

“Hey ___, this is my girlfriend”…..and its even worse when that person says something like “when are the kids coming” or “when you putting a ring on that”

 

“Dont worry, it will happen soon”—-……..

 

“I want it just as bad as you”– Dude, if u wanted it as bad as me, it would happen!!!

Post # 40
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

Boyfriend/girlfriend.

 

Post # 41
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Ahhhhh!

context— as in contexts of the relationship because we used to refer to engagement as context 2 and marriage as 3. One day I said, “if we can’t say marriage we are NOT getting married. Come on.” Sometimes it still comes up when he is acting shy like he isn’t sure yet. Quit foolin’. 

Boyfriend

girlfriend—totally agree with PP’s about second class citizenship

“you are part of the family! Stop being awkward!” Vs “well you probably weren’t included in that because you aren’t family…she’s his fiancée.”

pressure

Not directly answering questions or dancing around them

“how hard could it be to plan it? You’ll have lots of help I’m sure.”

Post # 42
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

This probably sounds crazy but I’m really starting to hate hearing the word “wife.” My SO keeps introducing me to people as his wife and calling me his wife but he hasn’t even put a ring on it yet! It’s sweet to be called that but it just doesn’t feel right without at least a proposal.

I’m also starting to hate “I can’t wait to marry you” really if you can’t wait than put the ring you bought over 4 months ago and make it official. Which links in with “surprise” I mean really I know you have the ring, we’ve been together 4 years and own a home together and have 2 fur babies, I mean really it’s not going to be a surprise at this point, I know it’s coming.

Post # 43
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

My SO & I got very serious very quickly (most likely because I’m 34 & he’s 42) but I thought since we’re likely to get engaged on or before our one year anniversary, we wouldn’t have pressure from people. Who askes a couple who’s been dating for 6 months when they are getting engaged? Oh… right…. EVERYONE! I hate it.

I also hate his stock response of “We’re working on it”. I don’t know what an acceptable response would be, but hearing that phrase over and over is bugging me. 

Post # 44
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

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@beeeforeigocrazy:  I totally agree. I hate that term “boyfriend.” Never liked it really. I find using fiance a bit too much on the other end of the spectrum though. I just call him “David” and let people think what they may. What do you do?

Post # 46
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Worker bee

My list of words/sentances I have come to hate:- 

‘Soon’

‘One day’

’emotional’

‘you are still young’ 

‘you’ve got plenty of time’

‘when are you getting engaged/married?’

‘we’ll talk later’

‘don’t worry’

‘it’ll be fine’

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