- 9 years ago
Lately I have been feeling much less stressed and anxious about the wait. In fact, a few weeks ago, I expressed to Boyfriend or Best Friend that I was really relishing my independence and didn’t want to rush to move in together–especially since he didn’t seem to be hopping on board the engagement train anytime soon. To my surprise, he seemed alarmed by all of this, and he has become even more invested in the move-in. I calmly reiterate my stance on not living together pre-engagement whenever the topic comes up. Also, I have been spending more time focusing on the areas of my own life that I want to improve on–things that I feel will make me a better partner for my future hubby. For example, I have been cleaning up my finances, working out more, trying to grow spiritually and getting more involved in extra curriculars that interest me. I’ve read Mr. Bee’s plan, and this is not an attempt to employ that plan, but I have really started to think of what I want for my life. The goal is to have myself at 100% when he decides that he’s ready for the two of us to become one. I have also accepted that I cannot and should not rush him into getting engaged for selfish reasons. I feel as though I should focus the bulk of my attention on me and one of two things will happen: If he is the one, he will appreciate this and recognize that I’m serious about the the things that I want for my life, including marriage and a family; and he’d better get on board soon. Or, he’ll resent it and show himself as not being the man that I think he is–the one that I want to marry.
He and I have been together for 8 years; we’re both 27. I feel comfortable in our relationship. We have a great time together, great chemistry and a great friendship. For now, that’s good for me.
All of that to say to all of my fellow bees out there:
–Give him time to come around if he is THE ONE. He may surprise you!
–Focus on making you happy.
–You don’t have to stop thinking about *it*. Even if that means shopping for rings/venues/dresses online by yourself. There’s nothing wrong with imagining *the perfect day* exactly the way you want it to be.
Above all, convince yourself that it will be worth the wait. If you don’t believe that, then what are you waiting for?
*HUGS* AND *GOOD VIBES*