Post # 1
while it’s still close to 9 months away and I know I’ve got time to really settle on what I want to include in my ceremony – I would love to hear from all of you as to what you used during yours.
The post from Miss Lamb about The story of Ruth really got me thinking about what I want to use…
I’m definitely using the passage from Ruth that Miss Lamb wrote about – but what others are you all using? Also – did you guys sit with your officiant and go through exactly what you wanted read – or did you give him/her a free for all? thanks!!
Post # 3
This is a great post, one of which I can’t really contribute to yet lol. My officiant came up with some nice stuff, none of it is memorable though. We’re not doing a religious ceremony so we wanted members of our family to do 2 readings but the ones he’s suggested didn’t do it for us. Hope others have so good ideas!
Post # 4
We wrote our entire ceremony and sent it to our officiant before the wedding. He was really open to working with us and would have provided a ceremony if we preferred that. We actually used the Ruth reading and also Aristotle and C. S. Lewis. We didn’t have a church ceremony so we didn’t include any other religious passages, but it really reflected us.
Post # 5
Check out The Prophet by Khalil Gibral, especiallly the sections on love and marriage. There are some very nice passages in there, I think you might like them. =)
Post # 6
Boyfriend will more than likely be writing our ceremony seeing that he’s a minister. I’d like to have a couple readings just because I have some friends that aren’t comfortable being bridesmaids but I’d still like to involve them!
Post # 7
My sister/BM will be reading Psalm 100. We are having a worship service as part of our ceremony so she will read that as an introduction to the beginning of worship.
Post # 8
We’re writing our whole ceremony, but it’s going to start out with Union by Robert Fulughm.
Post # 9
“Put on then, as God’s chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassion, kindness, lowliness, meekness, and patience, forbearing one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive. And above all these put on love, which binds everything together in perfect harmony. And let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, to which indeed you were called in the one body. And be thankful. Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly, teach and admonish one another in all wisdom, and sing psalms and hymns and spiritual songs with thankfulness in your hearts to God. And whatever you do, in word or deed, do everything in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him.”
1 John 4:16-19
“We have come to know and have believed the love which God has for us God is love, and the one who abides in love abides in God, and God abides in him. By this, love is perfected with us, so that we may have confidence in the day of judgment; because as He is, so also are we in this world. There is no fear in love; but perfect love casts out fear, because fear involves punishment, and the one who fears is not perfected in love. We love, because He first loved us.”
Post # 10
We also did a prayer of the faithful that we wrote where my husband read it in french, the language his family speaks, and then I would read the same sentence in english.
Post # 11
We are having a traditional Korean wedding in Korea, an Orthodox church service in Korea, and a wedding in Canada…so by the time we get to the Canadian wedding we will have done many of the prayers and Biblical readings which are usually used in Christian ceremonies. Therefore, I am writing the ceremony using rock lyrics as our readings and vows. So far we’ve decided to use this from the Decemberists as one of our readings:
This is the story of your red right ankle
And how it came to meet your leg
And how the muscle, bone, and sinews tangled
And how the skin was softly shed
And how it whispered “Oh, adhere to me
For we are bound by symmetry
And whatever differences our lives have been
We together make a limb.”
This is the story of your red right ankle.
However, I still want to use some prayers in the ceremony. I found this beautiful one we are going to use as a final blessing:
To the couple:
God the Eternal keep you in love with each other, so that the peace of Christ may abide in your home.
To the people:
Bear witness to the love of God in this world, so that those to whom love is a stranger will find in you generous friends.
Post # 12
Oh! And I found this beautiful section for the ring blessing and exchange. I would love to use it, but FI’s first language is not English, and I think in a time of stress it might be difficult with him to remember his answer in English.
As the bride places the ring on the groom’s finger she says:
__________, I offer this ring to you as a symbol of my love and of the vows I have spoken. What meaning will it have for you as you wear it?
The groom responds to the question, stating the meaning of the wedding ring to him:
As the groom places the ring on the bride’s finger he says:
__________, I offer this ring to you as a symbol of my love and of the vows I have just spoken. What meaning will it have for you as you wear it?
The bride responds to the question, stating the meaning of the wedding ring to her:
Post # 13
We are doing an untraditional ceremony – so no religious passages, just spiritual readings. I’ve read so, so, so many different ceremonies/vows and finally just now found the right one for us. I tried reading it to my fiance and cried the whole way through because it fits us so well. The ceremony is developed from an adaptation of “Conversations with God: An Uncommon Dialogue, Book 3” by Neale Fredald Walsh.
Post # 14
oh dear ladies, i am in trouble. I just looked up The Union by Robert Fulghum that laylabella mentioned and let me tell you, the tears they are a flowin. I am so worried that i’m not going to be able to get my vows out cause i’ll be crying. oh i just love being in love!
Post # 15
Google “The Art of Marriage” poem
Post # 16
We used the “Apache wedding blessing”
Now you will feel no rain, for each of you will be shelter for the other. Now you will feel no cold, for each of you will be warmth to the other. Now there will be no loneliness, for each of you will be companion to the other. Now you are two persons, but there is only one life before you. May beauty surround you both in the journey ahead and through all the years, May happiness be your companion and your days together be good and long upon the earth. Treat yourselves and each other with respect, and remind yourselves often of what brought you together. Give the highest priority to the tenderness, gentleness and kindness that your connection deserves. When frustration, difficulties and fear assail your relationship, as they threaten all relationships at one time or another, remember to focus on what is right between you, not only the part which seems wrong. In this way, you can ride out the storms when clouds hide the face of the sun in your lives – remembering that even if you lose sight of it for a moment, the sun is still there. And if each of you takes responsibility for the quality of your life together, it will be marked by abundance and delight.