Post # 1
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Helper bee
Are any of your coworkers throwing you a bridal shower? I have a friend (it’s just the two of us in our one office) who keeps bringing up the fact that she wanted to throw me a “work” shower. That’s all fine and thoughtful but the invitations already went out for my shower that my bridesmaids are throwing me… and all my office girls were invited to that.
I’m bringing this up because she tells me all the time that “I shot her down” and “I wanted to throw you a seperate shower but you told me no” UGH! I love her but she’s not a bridesmaid. (Oh yea. She also offered to buy my wedding jewelry. Or my “borrowed blue old new” orrrr pay for my shower cake!) How can I gently tell her to KNOCK IT OFF!? LOL
Thanks for letting me vent Hive!!
Post # 3
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Newbee
That’s a though one! Is she invited to the other showering as well?
Post # 4
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Helper bee
Yes, she’s invited to my shower. It’s a surprise so I don’t know when it is but anyway… I don’t know how else to tell her I don’t want my office peeps to feel obligated to attend TWO showers. She should understand this…
At this point I don’t even respond to the comments. Every other day I hear it… “well you wouldn’t let me throw you a work shower.” etc…
Post # 6
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Busy Beekeeper
I don’t see the big deal in her throwing you one? If it’s at work it’ll be totally seperate from the other one.
Post # 7
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Honey Beekeeper
I don’t think it’s appropriate to have guests invited to both showers. They might think that you want them to buy 2 gifts which isn’t fair for them.
Post # 8
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Honey bee
It sounds like your co-worker and a few other office co-workers will already be invited to the other shower. Could it be that she hasn’t received her invitation to this other shower yet?
If there is still a large group that would be interested at work (other than those already going to the Bridesmaid or Best Man shower) then I say let her throw it. Maybe you could ask to keep it low key, maybe you and the gals just all go out for lunch one day and she can bring the cake or something.
Some people just get really excited about weddings. Try to find something she can help with to make her feel included.
Post # 9
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Helper bee
I really would like to find something to have her to/gift to me that seems important but my ‘maids have been so ON TOP of everything… I don’t know what to offer!
She suggested getting me toasting flutes, they were already done. The cake for the shower? My sister is baking it. My wedding jewelry? A gift from my fiance. I don’t know what to do!
She has already gotten her invitation, I know that for a fact. And all the girls I work with are invited to it. I really don’t want to cave and have her throw a shower people will have to go to… a second one they would go to. I don’t like the idea. 🙁
Anyone have ideas of what I could have her do so she feels included? I know she is under the impression were BFF’s. (notice I said SHE is under that impression…) so I don’t know what to do. I know I can vent to my bee’s but can’t let her know how I realllllyyy feel….
Post # 10
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Busy Beekeeper
Can she be on your House Party?
Post # 11
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Busy bee
Would it work to “let” her throw you a luncheon at work? Not a shower, since you don’t want the work girls to feel pressured into getting you a second shower gift, but maybe she could arrange a luncheon at a nice restaurant near work for the work girls to celebrate with you. Just one idea 🙂
Post # 12
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Helper bee
I can suggest the luncheon idea to her. I’ll just specify that she ask no presents. That way it’ll be a good social hour. Thanks julia!
PrncssDva — by house party do you mean is she invited to the first shower?
Post # 13
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Newbee
I was gonna suggest lunch as well. Good luck!
Post # 14
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Sugar bee
A house party is someone who helps you at the wedding. For example, they pass out the programs at the ceremony, or makes sure that your guestbook is signed when people walk in. Some even load the gifts, guestbook and other items in your car for you at the end of the night.
I think if she wants to help with the shower then tell your Maid/Matron of Honor to give her a call. Surely she can help set-up or cook food.
Post # 15
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Helper bee
Thanks Vintage! I had no idea that’s what House Party meant. I will def think of something. 🙂 Thanks