(Closed) Work Bullshit just a vent!!

posted 4 years ago in Career
Post # 2
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

sway0060:  Kick him in the nuts! Jk. Don’t do that. That sucks. Have you ever come right out and said, “Don’t speak to me like that?” I don’t think I could haha! But wondered if it’s an option for you? My neighbor is a guy that could almost be my father and he’s very old school. “Oh, RedHead, just go inside and bake a pie.” He’s not trying to be mean, he’s just a neanderthal and thinks he’s funny. Makes fun of my husband hanging clothes out to dry because it’s a woman’s job. <eye roll>

Post # 4
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Sugar bee

sway0060:  UGH! I am also the only female at my office and work in a male domonated field.  It gets really old fast. Even though I am almost 30 I get called “the girl,” sweetie, honey, etc. all of the time. I just tell myself over and over “atleast I am not married to that guy, or that guy, or that guy.”

Post # 6
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Bumble bee

I had a similar situation. New guy comes into an established working group of mostly women and tries to start bossing us around, not even knowing our policies and procedures and immideatly tried to “improve them”. That went well for him LOL Needless to say he eventually just stopped talking to all of us and transfered out of our group.

Post # 7
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Helper bee

That’s a difficult situation, but I’m glad you stood your ground!

I had something similar happen to me. This guy was also old enough to be my father, except he was several levels above me, too. I was working on an important assignment with a tight deadline – for this guy’s boss who reigned over us all. In comes this guy, while I’m working away, telling me how his client’s wife just had a baby and since I’m a girl and therefore good at secretarial things, I need to find a gift for her. I stared at him in disbelief and said: “I don’t have a baby, so I wouldn’t know what to pick out.” He responded: “Yeah, but I’m sure your friends -” And I cut him off: “No, none of my friends have babies, either. But wait – you have a daughter, right? So what did your wife receive as gifts?” He didn’t want to back down, though, so he insisted that I find a gift and left.

Then in walks my boss… and he asks me if that guy was helping me with my assignment. Nope, quite the contrary. I told him what happened, and my boss nearly blew a gasket. My boss sent this guy a scathing email. Soon thereafter, my phone rang, and I received a long-winded apology. I made sure to tell this guy why what he said was sexist and unacceptable (yes, rubbing salt in the wound, but he had to know why he was wrong).

Long story short, you’ve got to nip this stuff in the bud! If you think your boss will stick up for you, let him know, so this sexist behavior from your co-worker stops! 

  • This reply was modified 4 years, 3 months ago by  QOTSA.
Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

sway0060:  I can relate! I work around mostly men and usually they are very cool but sometimes…

a few years ago, I was working in a short week long shoot, and the client needed a position filled at the last minute. All of the good people I knew were booked, so I referred this man (old enough to be my dad)  who was a hack but he was a warm body.

what do you know but he started screaming instructions at me (he was in no way my boss, his position was beneath mine) and even grabbed my arm to turn me toward him at one point.

oh no. That didn’t end well for him. 

last year I had an assistant who called me ” mommy” when I told him to stop goofing around. You have to love that. guess who is no longer working with me. 

 

  • This reply was modified 4 years, 3 months ago by  BalletParker.

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