(Closed) Work conflict with boss…need advice :(

posted 5 years ago in Career
Post # 2
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Buzzing Beekeeper

First of all, congratulations on being considered for such an impressive role! What a great opprotunity for you! It sounds like your boss put a lot of time, efort, blood, sweat and tears into her job. Although she knows she has a great replacement maybe she is worried about the transition. It sounds like she is pushing you so you can be as strong as she is, but she is pushing too hard. This happened to me a few years ago. It’s rough, it’s frustrating but eventually you will hit the point that you will “do right” in her eyes and she will trust you and calm down. I sincerely hope that is her approach! It would be awful to be bullied for two years because she doesn’t want to let go.

Post # 4
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

annonbee857:  I don’t think a woman gets to that position without being good at taking charge and control (you must have this quality too, but you’re being cut off at the pass right now which is frustrating). That kind of person doesn’t like or feel comfortable giving up control to another person.

that said, she trusts you. She thinks you are the very best person for her job! That’s amazing. 

You obviously share some of her traits, so view this as an opportunity to expand your flexibility. (I say that as a very stubborn person.) it’s not about you being right or your ideas being heard right now. It’s about her training you.

I don’t see that she is actually ready for you to step up yet, or wants you to. She wants to know you can, but that’s a different animal. This is going to be a hard test for you, as it’s frustrating to be cut off repeatedly, but you are up for the task!

 

Post # 6
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  • Wedding: June 2015

annonbee857:  you are so right, part of what makes a good leader is comforting and assuring others when things are unstable. 

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