(Closed) Work in Education, But Want a Fall Wedding (I think?)

posted 5 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: When would you get married?

    Fall, because that's your ideal, even if it's difficult professionally.

    Summer, because you have 2 months off.

    Go for summer--I did and it wasn't brutally hot/no makeup melting/no hair frizzing

  • Post # 16
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    I’m a teacher and got married over Thanksgiving break. I get a week off for Thanksgiving and my husband gets three days, so it worked out perfectly for our honeymoon. He only had to take off two days, and we were able to spend 6 nights on our honeymoon. 

    Post # 17
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

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    janna121215 :  Do early summer (right when the school year ends)! I live in Boston, am a teacher, and we got married in June – it was totally fine. Beautiful, perfect weather! 

    Post # 18
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2016

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    janna121215 :  so I’m a teacher and I got married in October. There is a few reasons for this, one is that I love fall and wanted a fall wedding, my husband’s job is very slow in October and that is the best time for him to take off… So I decided to take five days off (unpaid) for our honeymoon to Hawaii. My wedding was on a Saturday I took off the week after the wedding, Monday-Friday…We left four hours after our wedding (! Would not recommend but we had to make the best of the short time off) on a flight to Oahu and took and inter island flight to Maui where we stayed till Sunday-a week (our school had off for Columbus Day Monday so that was a freebie day) and I was back at work on Tuesday, my bosses were fine with me taking the days unpaid because I rarely take off and have great attendance. I also let them know 9 months in advance! I think it could work for you with some planning ahead of Time. 

    Post # 19
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2016

    I work in education as well and we got married last NYE weekend. It was beautiful, perfect, and everyone we talked to was so excited about having this great NY’s weekend. And, I was falling asleep at my desk on Monday morning. It depends what matters to you. We DIYd most everything, but I had no time off to do those things. I’d literally had almost no sleep for the few days leading up to the wedding (poor MUA- she really earned every dollar trying to get rid of the deep, dark circles under my eyes)- and I had no time off after.

    Post # 20
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2017

    A (former) friend of mine and her husband are both teachers and got married on New Year’s Eve last year.  They took a mini honeymoon at a bed and breakfast right after the wedding for a couple of days then went on their real honeymoon during spring break the following spring.  Would a winter wedding be a possibility?  I originally poo-pooed the idea of having a NYE wedding but it worked out really well for them and it was very festive.

    Post # 21
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    Bumble bee

    My parents and the majority of my friends are educators. None would dream of having a wedding in the fall, even if that were the ideal, because they are committed to their jobs. You have multiple months off in the summer, and, from my friends’/family’s experience, it is near impossible to get approved time off in the fall. It seems that since you have built in time off you’d go for that. I would never put a season ahead of my career. 

    Post # 22
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

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    farmfreshjoy :  I think it’s a little condescending to act like teachers should be ashamed for taking off any other time of the year since we get summers “off” (which let’s be honest, is laughable). Teachers are people too. It doesn’t make them less committed to their job to take time for themselves occasionally.

    Post # 23
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2016

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    FutureMrsBex :  a wedding and honeymoon is a once in a lifetime situation (hopefully!) so I have to agree with you there, just because I took some time off for that does not mean I’m not “committed to my job”. I’ve been a teacher for 9 years and I have 83 sick days left. I’ve used 7 sick days in 9 years. I rarely even use my personal days even though I lose them. I also do not get paid in the summer for my “time off” ::vent over:: lol

    Post # 24
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    Bumble bee

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    FutureMrsBex :  I’ve been a child of educators for 35 years. I myself was an educator for 12. My friends have been in the field for 15+ years. As a teacher, you acknowledge that there are certain limitations to the time you can take off. You get FAR more time off than your counterparts in other fields. Yes, it is limited by season, but it is a definite job perk. To decide that a fall wedding is more important than your career? I mean, only you can decide that. But personally, if my job had built-in time off (and a significant amount of it) I’d work around that. Students are just starting off in the fall, and I would never want to leave them hanging because I chose to have a wedding then rather than having it one month prior. This is not condescending; this is an informed comment. 

    Post # 25
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

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    farmfreshjoy :  I guess it depends on the district then. Our schools start the first week of August, so by the time o had my wedding, we were already 4 months in to classes that only last 5 months (block schedule). I just felt the comment that people who take time off for such an important event are uncommitted was a little harsh. 

    Post # 26
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Have your fall wedding and honeymoon over Christmas holidays.  Or over the next summer.  You can have both without compromising.  Otherwise, a summer wedding can be lovely, if you plan appropriately! (Fans, water stations, covered areas/indoor locations, etc).

    Post # 27
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I agree with JiminyCricket about a fall wedding and a honeymoon over the Christmas holiddays.

    You really don’t need that much time off for just the wedding if you are organized with your planning. I took Friday and Monday off because we had to travel 8 hours for our wedding and didn’t feel stressed at all because I had everything prepared ahead of time. You could probably get away with taking no time off for your actual wedding if you don’t have personal days.

    I had a June wedding and had beautiful weather. It was early enough that it wasn’t too hot yet. I’m not sure what month you are planning on but I wouldn’t totally base my wedding season on the weather. I live in NE Ohio and we hit 80 a few times in October and came really close at the beginning of November so you never know what kind of weather you’re going to get.

    Post # 28
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2017 - The Lodge at Little Seneca Creek

    I’m an educator, too, and I’m getting married in July…but only because it’s a special day to Fiance and me. If it weren’t, I probably would’ve gone for a fall or spring wedding. If you’re more excited about a summer wedding than a fall wedding (which it sounds like might be the case), get married indoors in the summer. If you do actually want to get married in the fall, you could delay the honeymoon until the summer and just take a couple of days off of work to stay at a nearby B&B or something right after the wedding.

    Post # 29
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2016

    I’d do a fall wedding and a summer honeymoon (in fact, that is what I’m doing because I’m in teaching too!).

    Post # 30
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I work in education and did a fall wedding. I took off a long weekend basically (Thursday- Monday). We got married on a Friday and did a “mini-moon” in Disney Saturday-Monday.  The following summer we took a long trip to Thailand for 2 weeks. It worked well for us because it gave us time to save up for the bigger trip.

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