Post # 1
How do you handle inviting coworkers that you are not close with?
I work with about 20 men in my department with 1 head boss and I am the only woman. I am not really that close to any few of them in particular but just about all equally.
I am at the point right now where I was going to just invite all of my department co-workers (which seems a little ridiculous – adding 40 people to my guest-list if each one brings a guest). Or just invite my boss… I’m not sure what to do! Please give me some advice!
Post # 3
In your situation I’d just invite the coworkers that you WANT to invite. If that isn’t any of them, they don’t invite any of them.
I work in a really small office and I invited everyone, I don’t think they’ll all come (which I’m fine with), but I’m sure the ones I WANT to be there will come.
Post # 4
I have 2 jobs. One job im only inviting the people im close with and would hang out with outside of work. The other job im not inviting anyone (altho i should invite my boss) its a really small place!
Post # 5
I guess what I’m afraid of is the awkwardness with the people that don’t get invited if they’re offended that I didn’t invite them… that’s what’s holding me back from doing just what you said. There’s some that I “work” with on a regular basis and other’s I don’t but there’s none that I’m really close to on a personal level. I’m not even that close to my boss but I’ve been told that it is “etiquette” to invite them.
Post # 6
I invited only my team (two people) even though I’m close with everyone. I just mentioned at one point or another (when I was out to lunch with them, when chatting wedding talk) that we have a small guest list and that I wish I could bring everyone, but unfortunately I can’t. They all seemed to understand.
Post # 7
my “team” is around 12 ppl.
i inivited 2 girls i am close to in my immediate group and 1 girl i am close to in the adjoining group that makes up our entire team.
i sstarted this job a couple of weeks after we were engaged, didn’t start the planning for a few months after that… my two bosses that i would have invited have transitioned into other roles and i don’t see them much anymore… and i didn’t want to invite everyone when i don’t even talk to them for more than five minutes a week.
Post # 8
I work in a small department within a bigger department, but we’re all located together. I’m very close with my small department, but usually only do the “Hi, how are you?” with the people in the bigger deparment, even though, honestly, their offices are right down the hall from mine. (They mostly keep to themselves.) I’m only inviting my coworkers in the small department. I read somewhere that you shouldn’t invite anybody that you personally wouldn’t ask out for coffee. And seeing as I’ve worked here for 3 years and have barely said 5 sentences to a few of them, I think it would be weird if I did invite them to the wedding! And I’m only inviting my direct supervisor that I speak with daily and like very much. The ‘big’ boss I rarely speak to and don’t have a relationship with.
Post # 9
I didn’t invite any coworkers, nit even my boss. I thought it was silly because if I left this job, I wouldn’t remain close with anyone here.
Generally, that’s the rule of thumb I tell people to follow. Only invite coworkers/bosses if you hang out outside the office, or if you would still remain friends if you left the job. Otherwise, what’s the point?