- 5 years ago
- Wedding: June 2014
My wedding is in about three months. Everything as far as the wedding planning goes has been fine. There has been some stress with family stuff here and there, but overall I have a handle on everything & I am OVER THE MOON happy to be marrying the most wonderful, amazing, handsome, loving, hilarious, intelligent, and honest man I have ever known.
Leading up to this wedding my work situation has pretty much become “worst case senerio”. My work load has increased to an extreme level to the point where it is now not humanly possible to complete the amount of work I need to produce. I have been working 9-10+ hour days regularly and then answering a myriad of phonecalls and texts that are work related as soon as I get home. I have been absorbing other peoples work ever since I started this job and now it has become almost unbearable.
I dont have time to use the bathroom (to the point where I have gotten UTI’s), eat lunch/have a break, and always get home late from work. When I finally get home I am completely exhausted. Lately I have not been able to get back to my vendors because I keep getting off work later than planned. My vendors keep similar hours to mine, so my window for getting in touch with them is only if I am lucky and get off work on time.
My overall health has suffered from the work situation to the point where I collapsed before Xmas, have insomnia, hair loss, and major weight loss (not much eating at work without a lunch break). I have been fighting since then to strike a balance in my life and try to put at least some focus on my wellbeing and the most important thing that has ever happened in my life (marrying the man that I love). My work seems to come in direct conflict with my want for a normal family life.
My soon to be husband and I have talked a lot about having a family. We have been together about 6 years, and have already felt as though we have been married a long time (I am 27, he is 32). We have discussed having children and both want to be youngish parents as opposed to older. I want to be done having kids by my early 30’s. We have agreed that I am going off birth control after the wedding. That means I could get pregnant anytime…
Today my bosses boss said that me and my boss need to go to a conference for 4 days the week after I return from my wedding. I have never been asked to do anything like this before and the only staff who normally go to these are high level management (which isn’t my position). Basically the timing couldn’t be worse. This means I will have to “play catch up” twice, also there are some big deadlines at work during the time I would be away on the conference. The work would still need to get done somehow. It would be a major hardship on our business if we were to go.
Normally the top bosses would go to these. My bosses boss “can’t go” of course. Our president usually goes to these. She is older, has been with her husband for 10+ years, and all her children are grown and out of the house. + she makes like triple the money I make (I make barely a teachers wage). Of course she doesn’t want to go. Both of these “executive” women barely work 40 hours a week. They are typically the latest to show in the morning and the first to leave in the afternoon. They take vacations during times I would just never consider…
I am so angry about this. This is a time in my life that I want to cherish and enjoy-I cant even enjoy this special time in my life because of work! My colleagues will be shocked because NO ONE in my position level has ever been asked to do something like this. I wish I could take it as a compliment, but I just feel like my upper bosses are being selfish and “passing the buck” to those that make less & already work so much harder than they do. I would NEVER ask someone I supervise to absorb a huge responsibility of mine like that & just expect that they’ll still get their normal work done-when their NOT EVEN THERE TO DO IT!
How can I ever have a baby or a life with a job like this?