Post # 1
Is there really ever a good time for your first baby? I’m a professional working full time and pursuing my graduate degree part time, online – work is funding this and allowing work time for my studies. My husband works full time. We are ready to start trying for our first baby but I worry how if will impact my career. I know this is a common concern – just looking for any advice/support!
Post # 2
My only advise is that you have to decide what is important to you and what works best for your family. Unfortunately, you can’t spend 100% of your time with both your career and your family, so you have to find a balance that you are ok with.
I have found that my career progress has slowed since I had my baby 2 years ago. I work in a field where travel is expected to advance, and I didn’t want to be away from home to much. So I settled into a comfortable role which I enjoy, but has limited room for advancement.
I’m ok with that, though. I believe I’ve found a balance between career and being able to maximize my home time. I may never be CEO, but I am a working mom with a job I love and a great family, and that gives me satisfaction.l
Post # 3
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
Could you be finished your graduate degree by the time a baby arrives? Do you want to continue working after baby arrives? Would you be okay outting a degree on hold for a few yeqars while you work and raise a child (or children)? Only you know what your priorities are. But you will have to prioritize, and something will have to give.
Post # 4
It’s hard, it really is. There is never really a perfect time and you know what, your body might not go along with whatever plan you do create.
We started actively trying the last week of 2014 and didn’t conceive until April. Not a LONG time by any stretch, but we had no idea how long it might take and if you scroll through some of the TTC threads, you may be surprised by how long it takes for some people.
The best advice that I can give is that if what you truly want is a family, don’t let your career get in the way of it. I think you’d be more likely to regret waiting too long for reasons that will later seem silly.
Just my .02c.
Post # 5
One of the things I have accepted is that we can have all of what we want, just not all at the same time.
This is an old article but it helped me in regards to this topic.
Post # 6
I don’t think there is ever a right time for quite a few people, especially those with careers. How long until you finish your graduate degree? I would probably complete that before having a child.
Post # 7
there’s never a perfect time but some times are better than others. I’d personally wait until I was finished school. Working with a baby is hard enough, I can’t imagine adding school on top of it . My sister is doing it now and finding it incredibly stressful. People do it, but if I had the choice I wouldn’t.
Post # 8
I got married in May, and I actually quit my high paying (STRESSFUL) HR job a month ago because I knew that we will start trying to get pregnant in the near future. I couldn’t imagine being that stressed out while trying to get pregnant or be pregnant. In the end, family was more important to me than my career. I figured I could always go back when our kids are older. I’m looking for a part-time position in the meantime in an entirely different field. I did struggle with this decision for a long time. I felt guilty because I worked my butt off in college (first person in my family to go to college). I felt guilty that my dad worked for 40 years in a factory, and here I am quitting my high paying job at 28. My parents get it now, but I think they wondered for a while what I was doing lol. In the end, it was the BEST decision ever. It’s hard to take a different course when you’ve worked hard thus far, but it’s not all for waste!