(Closed) Work name drama

posted 9 years ago in Names
Post # 3
18637 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Are your licenses and everything in your maiden name?  If so, it would be a lot easier to keep your maiden name for work and use your other name for social events, etc.  I don’t really have any other ideas about it though.

Post # 4
1718 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2008 - Winery in the Gold Country

My in laws went through this, and my step Mother-In-Law kept her maiden (actually, name of her first husband) name. She said it was too much of a PITA to change it for work. If this were me personally, I’d keep my maiden for work, as well.

Post # 6
2004 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

Any update on what happened? What did you decide?

Post # 7
35 posts
  • Wedding: October 2010

I’m in the military and we are ALL known by last names.  I am an officer with 15 years in.  From the beginning I said I wouldn’t be changing my name until I retire (5 more years).   FH was fine with that.  Until a boss (male officer at work) said it was BS and it wouldn’t matter that everyone would know.  Now suddenly its an issue. 

I have no issue with his name and our kids/socially etc would use his, but why should I sacrifice 15 years of hard work to earn a NAME for myself (they say that for a reason) only to change it professionally?

I think he suddenly feels its a rejection.  He’s in the military too.  No one is asking him to change HIS name.  I told him I’d keep an open mind, but that the only other workable solution is for me to use both.  I don’t want to do that, but hey, if it makes him happy I will.  Bottom line is my name would still be on my uniform every day.

So Doc- I say keep working with him, but hold your name too.

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