Post # 1
I got married 3 months ago and my initial plan was to change my name to MyFirst MyMiddle MyLast HisLast and at work go by MyFirst MyLast HisLast. I am a physician, so licensing is complicated. I have 3 partners at work and they asked me to not change my name until the new year because it made things easier. I said fine, and have since heard of several physicians who kept their maiden name at work and married name everywhere else. Now I don’t know what to do. My plan is to stick with my maiden name for now, because I am still weighing the convenience of having one name on everything vs. the huge pain to change it, but I don’t know for sure. One of my partners (while we are all equal, he kind of runs things) said I need to have it decided by our monthly meeting which is tomorrow. I don’t think I should be making a big decision on a deadline like this, so does anyone have any good ways of dealing with this?
Post # 3
Are your licenses and everything in your maiden name? If so, it would be a lot easier to keep your maiden name for work and use your other name for social events, etc. I don’t really have any other ideas about it though.
Post # 4
- Wedding: June 2008 - Winery in the Gold Country
My in laws went through this, and my step Mother-In-Law kept her maiden (actually, name of her first husband) name. She said it was too much of a PITA to change it for work. If this were me personally, I’d keep my maiden for work, as well.
Post # 5
I appreciate the ideas. Does anyone have any ideas on how to deal with people at work rushing my decision?
Post # 6
Any update on what happened? What did you decide?
Post # 7
I’m in the military and we are ALL known by last names. I am an officer with 15 years in. From the beginning I said I wouldn’t be changing my name until I retire (5 more years). FH was fine with that. Until a boss (male officer at work) said it was BS and it wouldn’t matter that everyone would know. Now suddenly its an issue.
I have no issue with his name and our kids/socially etc would use his, but why should I sacrifice 15 years of hard work to earn a NAME for myself (they say that for a reason) only to change it professionally?
I think he suddenly feels its a rejection. He’s in the military too. No one is asking him to change HIS name. I told him I’d keep an open mind, but that the only other workable solution is for me to use both. I don’t want to do that, but hey, if it makes him happy I will. Bottom line is my name would still be on my uniform every day.
So Doc- I say keep working with him, but hold your name too.