Post # 1
I’m trying to figure out what I will do once my LO is born in December. I know that initially I will stay at home with him but at some point a few months after I know I will want and need to go back to work at least part time. I don’t want to work full time because I just don’t want to miss anything big with him and also I want to be an involved mama. However my Mother-In-Law owns a boutique and said I could work for her part time after and she would watch him for me. My SIL also works there so I know she would help. My stepmom also wants to help out some too. I have no problems finding people to watch him while I work but I worry about missing any of his milestones like rolling over for the first time, crawling, walking, words!!! Also I’m trying to weigh the pros and cons of even working part time. My Darling Husband and I live about 25-30 minutes from town where our families live and work so I would have to spend about $100 – $150 a week in gas, lunch, etc getting to my part time job however we would be saving since I wouldn’t have to pay for daycare. But I don’t know that my small income would supplement my driving into town for work and such. Ughhh Darling Husband and I are planning to sit down and discuss it tonight but I wanted to get some of your input too.
My not wanting to miss things comes from being a nanny before and I worked for a well off family where the mom didn’t need to work and didn’t but was never at home with us. Which as the nanny I didn’t mind but I couldn’t grasp her not wanting to give the baby his first bottle in the mornings since that was such a sweet time and her letting me always put the toddler down to nap. She missed the baby pulling up for the first time because she was out running in the neighborhood. And one day she asked the toddler if he was her boy and he said no he was mine! That would break my heart as a mom.
What will you be doing? And why?
Post # 3
@SouthernSunshine: I’m not having kids, but that story about the little boy thinking you’re his mom is adorable.
Post # 4
I am not pregnant, but my fiance and I have agreed that I will stay home if we have children. It would be sad to lose the extra salary, but I just don’t want to “do it all.” It sounds way too stressful to me. And being able to take a nap in the middle of the day? Yes please! We are not planning to have kids though.
Post # 5
I am working mom. We just really can’t afford for me not to work. Well we could but things would be very, very tight.
My son will be 2, and we didn’t miss a thing. We saw his first steps, his first time walking. His first word was dadda. The first time he said momma he was in my arms.
My son gets all excited when he sees me walk through the door to pick him up from daycare.
Post # 6
Being that I am blessed to live in Canada, for the first year I stayed at home with my Dirty Delete, then went back to work.
I now work full time…I will say that having that first year was SO awesome. I had to go back to work though.
If I were you, and had the option, I would go back to work part time and see how you feel from there. You may find it easier than you think to go back full time, eventually.
Post # 7
Interesting topic and I am curious to see some responses and stories. We are about to start TTC so I have been thinking through things a lot. Unfortunately my Darling Husband and I each make half of our total salary and we can’t afford to lose a full half of our income for me to be a Stay-At-Home Mom. His mother is retired, mine is an airline pilot so she’s gone for 4 days, home for 3, etc so we have child care part time. Although I never planned to be a Stay-At-Home Mom or wanted to when I was younger, I have a hard time once in awhile. with the fact that I don’t have the choice. I also don’t want to miss all of the things that come with working full time but it is what it is. Thankfully our child will be with family some of the time and daycare others.
Post # 8
I will be returning to work after LO is born. We rely on my health insurance which is a big reason. I can’t imagine being a Stay-At-Home Mom, but now that I’m pregnant, of course I’d love to! I know in the long run for my happiness and our family’s happiness it will be best if I go back to work. I definitely think it will be tough at first though. I’m hoping to be able to do some telecommuting or an alternative schedule to make things easier though.
Post # 9
I will be working for sure.
Post # 10
I have a great job and just got a promotion and raise last month. I couldn’t walk away from the living I am making right now. Also, I think I would go crazy being home all day- I’ve been working for almost 15 years!
We do talk about me working part time so maybe that’s an option. I’ll see when the time gets closer.
Post # 11
this is baby #2 for us. I will not be going back to work. DS is 7 and with this little one, those cost of child care for 2 plus the cost of gas to get to and froom work, it didnt make sense for me to keep working.
I am excited to stay home with my kids!
Post # 12
We are not TTC yet, but we have talked about this. I’ve always wanted to have my own store and sell crafty, handmade things that I make. I thought about doing Etsy or something, but with working full time, I’m usually too tired to go home and start crafting.
Fiance has some pretty big opportunities coming up next year, and if things go well, he will make enough money for us to live off of.
Once we TTC, we will discuss me staying home with the LO and opening an Etsy shop to work from home too.
Post # 13
For us, it would be so expensive to finance daycare for the twins (£85/day/kid–works out to roughly £3400/month) that me staying at home is by far the most cost-effective option. Happily, Darling Husband makes enough and I really like the idea of being a Stay-At-Home Mom, especially in those first few years that are so precious. My current job is more just a fun time-filler anyway (planning to do the doctorate and proper career once they’re in school), so it’s not like I’ll miss out on career progression. We purposely financed our life on just DH’s salary (we’ve just been chunking most of mine straight into savings) because we knew we were going to TTC and didn’t want to over-commit ourselves financially if I decided I wanted to stay home. Now that we’re having twins, I’m so glad we did! Otherwise, we’d be screwed.
Post # 14
According to our most current plans, no. I want to be a Stay-At-Home Mom.
Post # 15
The plan is for me to be a Stay-At-Home Mom until our children are all in school. We are lucky to be in a financial situation where that’s possible. Darling Husband and I both agree that is what would be best for our family.
Post # 16
I stayed home for 2 years with my son. I will be going to college until I have the baby, then taking one term (3 months) off to be with baby. Then back to school. I plan on spacing out my classes though so I only have one a day, so that’s only about 3 hours away a day.