(Closed) Work plans after baby??? Will you be a SAHM or Working Mama or both???

posted 6 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 47
1400 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@sailor:  yeah everyone keeps telling me that, and I’m sure it’s true But right now it’s hard to believe. I just started crying in Target because there were a bunch of stay at home moms shopping with their kids and I got so jealous! I’m just going to miss her so much. I have anxiety issues as it is so this is just making it 10 times worse. 

Post # 48
105 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

Darling Husband and I just had this conversation the other night.  He would like me to stay home for atleast the first year so that I could raise our little one.  He doesn’t want them in daycare that young.  I totally agree.  However, I am an attorney so I will probably start working from home after the first 6 months.  I will likely only take small cases that don’t require much work.  Hopefully, after a year I will transition back into the work world.

Post # 49
1769 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I will continue working after having kids. It’s definitely what is best for us financially. I think it’ll be nice to continue having adult contact and conversatios as well!

Post # 50
3625 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Darling Husband makes enough that we can make it work if I wanted to be a Stay-At-Home Mom but both of us agreed that given my personality, there’s no way I would be able to do that 24/7. I’m planning to go back to work right at 3 months (which is the maximum my company is willing to pay me for) and we are enrolling our child in a Montessori program which is one of the best in the area. It was hard initially to make this decision but we really like the program a lot and we think they’ll offer a lot of benefits I can’t provide as well, such as a group of LOs for him to play with every day. I make enough that we still come out ahead post-childcare costs and my company offers incredibly good healthcare. Luckily, my boss is super supportive so for the first few months, at least, I’m going to do a part-time telecommute.

Post # 51
2490 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

If we are blessed with a child I will most likely work part time or work from home. My fiance has one weekday off so he would be with him/her then and we have talked about a nanny for the other couple of days. 

Post # 52
2902 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I play to stay at home for a year before going back to work. I like money and surrounding myself with adults so this is the best decision for me 🙂

Post # 53
209 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I’m in the Uk, so I’m lucky enough to have a 12 month maternity leave entitlement. I plan to take around 9 months after my baby is born in february, and then I’ll be returning to work full time. 

Post # 54
2564 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I will work, not sure how much time I will take off. Hopefully we will be back in Canada, but I have no intention of taking a year off. I am temporarilly unemployed while I wait to write a license test that is only offered a few times a year, and I am going insane!

Post # 55
697 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@SouthernSunshine:  We have yet to TTC, as we will begin that next spring.

I will be a working mom, as the cost of living here in New England is high and I make slightly more money than my FH (for now). 

Post # 56
1663 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I will go back to work full time.  We can’t afford to have me not work as we live in Boston, and the cost of living is high.  I also finished a graduate degree 2 years ago that required a huge amount of time, energy, and money, and I can’t imagine just putting it on the shelf.  It helps that I love my job and my field.  


In theory I’d love to work a 4 day week, but I don’t think my company would go for that.  I would have to significantly change my focus and take a huge pay cut (beyond the difference in hours). 


I also feel like socialization is good  for kids!  My mom has talked about wanting to provide child care for a day or two a week when we have them, and then we’d do daycare for the other days.

Post # 57
529 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Daycare costs will just about equal my entire paycheck, so you better believe I’ve thought about this.  But, even though we will probably take a financial loss with me going back to work, I think the benefits to my mental health, other work benefits, and my long-term plans tip the scale in favor of me going back to work.  

I love my job.  It’s kind of my dream job – I can definitely see myself working here until I retire.  It is intellectually challenging, my bosses are fabulous, the hours are good, and I have enough flexibility with my schedule that I would be able to arrange to make it to the important after-school outings, and take time off when I need it.  I can’t think of a better job to have as a working mom.  If I were to take a few years off, that would (probably) mean giving up on this career path, since there’s no gaurantee I would get re-hired here. Plus, I’m earning retirement, have good health care, and will continue to get promoted at my current position.  So, even if daycare = paycheck now, that won’t always be the case.  Fortunately, I’m able to take a year long leave of absence (unpaid) and then return to my job.  I AM considering doing this.  


Post # 58
7977 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

Still talking about TTC now, but…

It will really depend. Childcare is so expensive that I might have to be a Stay-At-Home Mom, at least for a while. I can’t risk bankrupting the family just for the sake of working (yes, my income is that low compared to the cost of childcare!)

I’m really scared that if I take time out, I’ll never work again though. The economy is so terrible right now…

Post # 59
253 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Not TTC yet, but planning to in the next year. My ideal situation (I think) would be to work part-time. I’m really torn on the issue…I worked hard and went to school for a long time, and I do really like my field. I’m doing a residency right now which is full-time, and although I love what I’m doing I just can’t imagine keeping up this kind of schedule while being a mom. 

The second income is nice, but thankfully Darling Husband and I got used to living on his salary alone for the 3 years of our marriage that I was in school. If I was able to work part-time or PRN (as needed) it would allow me to stay current, have adult interaction, and make a little money…but also be home with my little one a big portion of the time! I’m really hoping I can find a position like this next year. 

Post # 60
407 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I work at home and make my own hours, my work only cares that I make the hours required, doesn’t care when it happens. So I plan on keeping my job 100% 

Post # 61
1326 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

We’re planning on TTC in about 6 months. There’s no way I could be a Stay-At-Home Mom. I think I’d go insane. I also don’t think it’s responsible to rely on one income in this economy and especially with kids.

Like others have mentioned, I’ve worked very hard to get to the point I am in my career. I am very proud of that and would never walk away from it. Working is an integral part of my life and I would not feel whole without it.

I’m self-employed, anyway. I’ve been looking for fulltime work because that seemed like the best option since I was slow for a long time. But now my business seems to be picking back up, so I’m thinking it’s not a bad thing to be able to control my hours and schedule.


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