(Closed) Work situation – kinda long..

posted 10 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
9053 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I think if you have a backup plan that makes enough money that you can still be as comfortable as you like, then go for it. 

There’s lots of people on here that spend nights away from their Fiance and are able to make it work.  My Fiance is a emergency worker, so 4 nights every other week he works graveyard shifts, and I miss him, but we try to make time that we do have together more special.  You just have to figure out something that works for you and your Fiance, and if that means finding a job that you’re home every night then so be it.

Post # 4
1980 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I would be wary of quitting a job in your field that pays well in this economy. I know it sounds harsh, but you will likely be looking for work for months and months if you quit.

Post # 6
18628 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I agree that I would be wary of quitting right now since it’s so hard to find a job in this economy.  I would start looking for other jobs right now and see if you can get something that can replace the income at least partially.  Then you could keep most of the same quality of live and savings.  I hope you can get out of there soon!

Post # 7
14492 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

My parents always told me not to quit a job until you have a job, and it’s easier to get a job when you have a job.  It has always worked for me.  I would try looking for a replacement job while you still have one, that way, there does not have to be a sacrifice.  Good Luck.

Post # 8
651 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

If you are really unhappy then start looking for something else.  But don’t quit your job until you have something else lined up, as others said it might be difficult to find something.  I can understand how being away from your Fiance and just the stress of the job would get to you after a while.  It sounds like a tough job to do!

I personally place a high priority on being happy at my job and I just got out of a job I hated and in to something I love about a year ago.  It has made a huge difference in my entire life…Sunday is no longer a day to sit around and dread Monday! 🙂  So if you really want it then start looking, hopefully you can find something awesome. 

Post # 11
14181 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

You’re doing a good thing; that’s why you’re in this field, right? Patients won’t always be easy and you’ll have GREAT experience on your resume when you do get ready to switch. you can talk about perseverence and stuff like that.

By the way, my mom works with Alheizmers patients and it is TOUGH work. She has some crazy stories for me…i feel so bad for those folks. Alheizmers is awful =(

Post # 13
342 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

I was about to agree with the others and tell you to keep it until you had something else lined up.  Then I saw you decided to keep it.  I agree, you’re doing a very good thing.  I admit that i wouldn’t be able to do what you are doing.  I’m currently looking for a job near my Fiance so I can move in with him.  I currently have a job that I despise, but can’t leave it due to financial reasons.  Good luck with everything!

Post # 14
753 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I think you are doing the right thing staying with this job.  It is so hard to find a job in the current economy and the one that you have pays well which is awesome! At least stick with it while you are working towards paying for your wedding.

I do have to say that I think you sound like a really amazing person! You really are doing something great for this woman, and even if she cannot express it due to her condition…she appreciates it.

Post # 15
268 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Before I moved overseas and got into the internet marketing field, I was a juvenile corrections officer at a private girls facility.  Because I was a figure of authority, I was often the object of the wraith of the girls.  Physical and emotional.  My lord you would never think a 10 or 12 year old could say the things they did about you, your family, your life (what they knew of it), but they could.

In the 5 years that I worked for this company (in several different states) there was always turn over because people coming in, thinking they were going to make this huge difference in the kids’ lives and that the kids’ would just love them, would leave after getting their feelings hurt…by something a kid said.  I found the secret to success was to ignore it.  They were kids.  Why was I going to let kids dictate the state of my emotions?  The physical I could deal with, the emotional I just ignored.  They were kids.  Mean, nasty, little street rats.

Honestly, the same goes for your situation.  I know it’s draining, but as you said you know it’s not her fault.  You can’t look at it as an attack on you.  No matter what the woman says or does, it’s not her speaking.  Why are you going to let someone not in their right mind dictate how you feel??

Sorry, I’m not sure that was much help…I do wish you luck though.  These type of jobs are hard so I wish you all the luck in the world.  Just know that you’re making someone a lot more comfortable in their illness.

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