Work visit with baby – so embarrassed

posted 1 week ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Some babies just dont like being swarmed by a roomful of strangers and/or being held by people they don’t know in a strange place.  Maybe if you go back in, try holding her yourself, and if other people want to interact with her, have them come over individually and shake one of her favorite toys for her or something, instead of taking her from you.  Tell people she needs time to get to know people before they pick her up.  Honestly I think this reaction is pretty normal, and nothing to be ashamed about.  The person who should be ashamed, if anyone, is the person who randomly picked up someone’s baby without asking.

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper

People get that babies cry, it’s nothing to be embarrassed about. And these were your coworkers, who like you, not random strangers. I’ve found that it always seems like a bigger deal to me than it actually is to anyone else.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

My baby cried most of the time when I brought her into work. Although it wasn’t a surprise (she had colic), I still felt badly about it. But then I reminded myself that I’m always super happy to coworkers’ babies…even when they cry. It was definitely hardest on you! As an aside, early on I had taken her to the grocery store and was stressed trying to check out while she was crying in front of everyone, and an older guy came up to me and said “they’re never as loud as you think they are.” It was really nice. Congrats on the new babe!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee

Oh no! A baby cried! What will your co-workers think? Quelle horreur!

You need to remember that everyone was once a squalling infant. Don’t feel embarrassed or ashamed if your baby cries in public (unless you’re doing something colossally stupid with him, like seeing a movie or dining at a fine restaurant). It’s not always under your control, and people who are not jerks will understand that.

I once took a plane with my son who was fussy and wound up spraying milk on the passenger next to me. I was mortified and apologized profusely. The man couldnt have been nicer or more cool about it, he had kids of his own. Most people will be that way, except the ones with sticks up their asses. So chill.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee

My coworker brought her baby in and he had a total diaper blowout on my lap and spit up all over our boss all in the same visit. No one was even mad and that was way more of a distraction than a little crying. Don’t sweat it! 

 

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 1983

Don’t take your baby to work. She’s not happy there, and that’s hard on her and everyone else.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

jpbee :  I think you’re being too hard on herself. She’s a tiny baby who doesn’t need to fit into social ques or “behaviors” yet. I’m sure all of your coworkers thought she was adorable and were happy to see her! 

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2008

I don’t think you have any reason to be embarrassed! You took your baby in for a visit and she wasn’t feeling it so you left. What’s so bad about that? I can’t imagine your coworkers are judging you because your baby was crying. Babies cry! Why would anyone care?

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2008

cassandra7 :  you do not need to make this woman feel worse. She did nothing wrong. It is extremely normal and expected that after you have a baby you will eventually bring the little one in for an office visit. What is the matter with you that you are shaming this person who literally did a totally normal thing and is beating herself up about it? 

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 1983

Lunation, I was stating facts.

Further, in the professional settings I know, it is not an accepted practice for people to bring babies and interrupt the work. 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

jpbee :  My coworker brought his baby in and he cried and cried and cried, like immediately after coming through the door. No one cared, we know babies cry.

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