(Closed) Work wedding ‘shower’ expected?

posted 8 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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2237 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Why are you spending your money on work parties?  I understand if “everyone is chipping in to get so-and-so flowers” but you shouldn’t be the only one spending!

And sorry this isn’t answering your question, lol.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

i work for the government, so i can totally commiserate with spending my money on work parties. i’m also wondering if my office will do something. i don’t really care if they do or don’t, i’m just curious to find out!

Post # 5
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435 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I understand the frustration.  I’m not sure I would expect ( and I know you’re not) a full work shower but I would think they’d come together and get you a nice gift to mark the occasion.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I totally understand how you feel! I’m one of the lowest earning people in my office, yet we’re all expected to bring things all the time! In my office there have been a lot of baby showers lately. So yeah, I kind of expect them to acknowledge my wedding with at least a card. 

 

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

I started noticing that at my job, i’ve been here about 2years, people bring in CRAP for the pot luck.  So this year I did not sign up or participate.  It’s really gross the way some people take advantage.  So I started thinking…. who’s the jerk here .. them who give $1.00 and take 3 pieces of pizza or me who keeps letting them do this?  Please, when the time comes.  Please ignore me and my day. 

OP i think unless you plan it, work will not recognize it.

Post # 10
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I think when you are the one always bending over backwards for others, it’s only normal to wonder if someone would do the same for you if you weren’t there. There’s always that one person in the office that is the anchor for these kinds of things. But if nobody’s stepped up in the past, I certainly wouldn’t bother holding my breath now!

By the way, I HATE when people bring in crap food for the company pot lucks. Or go to Walmart and buy some nasty cheap baked good. Our department Christmas Party is today and only 20 people signed up–out of the, oh, HUNDRED or so who work in this building. Bums. 

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

We usually always throw baby showers at work, but never bridal showers (and there are a LOT of baby showers.  I’ve been there 5 years and there’s been at least 10.  I suspect there’s something in the water…) Maybe because lingerie and that type of stuff might seem a little more inappropriate than a onesie? 

I actually have no idea why, it’s just always the way things have been done.

Post # 12
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546 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

One of the girls that I used to work with was pregnant back in March…our little group is pretty small, so I took it upon myself to see if people wanted to donate like 5 dollars each and get her a babies r us giftcard and I brought in snacks and decorated a little bit.

When I got married, I think 2 people out of the 14 that I work closely with said congrats or good luck the day before I left.  And pretty much no one said anything the day I got back.  I didn’t expect people to actually do anything, but an acknowledgement would have been nice.

The same girl who was pregnant that I planned something for was going through a divorce, pregnant with her second child, and sleeping with one of our coworkers though…so maybe we don’t look at marraige the same way.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

@jindc:  I don’t see why having a baby is more important, or LEAVING THE OFFICE.

Oh, I TOTALLY agree with you.  To be fair, they always hang birthday signs on your office door on your birthday and they DID throw me a party when I passed the bar, so that was nice…

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

It would be nice if they showed their appreciation with a gift or card, but don’t expect it.  It’s my experience that some people worry about these things and others do not.  Good luck!

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