Post # 1
I’ve noticed something recently at my work and after talking to some of my friends about it, finding out it’s not just my place of employment where this is going on.
I’m an engineer. There’s not a lot of females in my office but the ones that are here all work full time. Part time options are non existant at my company (a Fortune 500 company) although they are now starting to allow people to work from home at least part of the time.
We’ve had 2 women leave within the last year to be Stay-At-Home Mom. The weird thing – both of the women have middle or high school aged kids.
One of the women gave her notice last week. I talked to her about it and she said it’s just getting too hard finding others to drive her kids to the various sports practices/music lessons/etc that her kids belong in. She also has a high school sophomore and he has been getting into some trouble lately after school (he hangs around kids that are known to do drugs) so she wants to be home for the “danger hours” of between 3 and 5 pm.
She has worked full time up until this point. She said she’s made a good salary for many years, now it’s her time to be home for when her kids really need her.
The other woman that left has 2 in high school, a freshman and a senior. She too felt like they really needed her home (especially the freshman) and she said she may go back to work at some easy part time job once the younger one is in college.
I had never heard this before. My sister has kids and she works and now that they’re in school she said it was much easier when they were just in daycare because she didn’t have to worry about driving them other places. Now she has to worry about what she’s going to do with them before school and after school, and with other activies.
A couple of my friends have had other women at their jobs do this too, although they are in industries, like health care, where they’re dropped down to part time.
I have always assumed I would be a working mom. This actually sounds like an interesting proposition, although I’ve always heard (and my sister confirms) that kids get more expensive the older they get so I would think the family would more likely need the mom’s salary when the kids are older not younger.
Have any of you heard this? Done this? Would consider doing this?
Post # 2
SunnierDaysAhead: Never heard of this either. Personally, I wouldn’t do it. I’d probably get bored at one point in time.
Post # 3
Personally, I feel like It’s important to be with your kids when they are little. It helps set them up developmentally. We are planning for me to be a stay at home mom until our youngest is in kindergarten, and depending on finances, I may only work part time anyways.
Post # 4
SunnierDaysAhead: An older woman suggested this to me a few years ago. She had returned from being a Stay-At-Home Mom since her kids were going off to college. But she only became a Stay-At-Home Mom once her kids were out of day care. She said that is when they need you at home the most. I think I agree.
Post # 5
SunnierDaysAhead: I’ve never heard of this, and personally wouldn’t do it…. unless early retirement was an option, but I wouldn’t cut back in the middle of my career.
I plan to be part time when we have kids, my Fiance wants me to not work at all, but we’ll see where we are financially. His mom stayed home when he was a kid (she also had 4!) and my dad worked from home growing up. It is nice to have someone at home, and to me it’s more important to be there when they’re younger for developmental reasons.
Post # 6
I did this. I worked full time while my kids were young- especially the older one. I quit my job when they were 10 and 2. It has been almost a year and it was such a good decision. I think my kids need me more now than when it was all about them needing a bottle and a clean diaper. life only gets more complicated when they get older. Next year they will be starting middle school and preschool and I feel like that will be such a busy time.
Post # 7
This is quite common for all the reasons your co-workers have mentioned. I know many families who have done this. TBH I think the time at home can be just as valuable if not more at that age, most especially when there are issues. Plus, some families are in a better financial position by then and can afford it.
Post # 8
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Mr. Lk and I have managed our work schedules to allow us to be available to DS both before and after school. But, yes, it just gets busier as they get older. DS has play practice, choir practice, mock trial team practice, Dr. Who club, writers club, and book club. We are running him to/from something every single day of the week. It is exhausting. But neither of us would be happy to give up our career. So Mr. LK works the early shift (leaves the house at 5:45am) and gets off of work at 3pm to do the after school errands. I work the later shift so that I can be available in the morning before the bus arrives for anything DS may need and do all of the animal chores. It works for us.
Post # 9
This is what my mom did, and it allowed my sister and I to be involved in a lot more activities (and have rides to those activities) compared to friends who had both parents working. At least it was nice during the summer months.
But, I know this isn’t exactly deasible in todays society and 2 incomes are better than one – and if we just had to live off of FI’s income, we would be living paycheck to paycheck and that’s not something that I know either of us wants to do.
I don’t know how the school year would go, but I could see it being a struggle in the summer months. However, most programs these days are all held at night for that very reason. When I was a kid, things were in the morning or during the day.