Post # 17
@envirobride: You won’t be able to make this choice until you actually give birth and meet your baby. Some people have easy labors, some people end up with a C-Section and can’t even walk up the stairs for awhile. Maybe your baby will let you sleep a little and maybe he or she won’t. You baby could want to spend all.day.long on your boob if you’re nursing (google cluster feeding.) You just don’t know. There are also a lot of emotions that come along with giving birth and everyone reacts to the hormones differently. You think you know yourself now and may think you know how you’ll react but things change when you’re a mommy. 🙂
Post # 18
This is an interesting question, especially since you are in Canada and have almost a year off. I am in the US and the max I could take is 12 weeks… while it’s certainly fantastic to have longer than that fully off, it seems like there are some benefits to doing this part-time stuff. Most working moms in the US go back by 12 weeks… not saying that’s easy or ideal, but considering that, it seems like half a day a week is doable, especially if it’s something you WANT to do.
I was talking to a friend in Germany the other day (she is American) and she was commenting that the long maternity leaves seem to have some negative consequences for women. Her experience has been that people are reluctant to hire her because they are worried she’ll get pregnant and leave for a year. She also has found that women are paid less because they end up losing a lot of time due to maternity leave, so it’s harder to progress professionally. On the other side of things, she feels like there’s a lot of social pressure against daycare, so that it would be hard to even choose to give up the longer mat leave and go back to work. Really interesting to think about the nuances of this, since it’s so different than the 12 weeks or less that people can take here.
Post # 19
It sounds like a very personal decision to make. I would most certainly not do it– it’s called “leave” for a reason! But I am a different person with different circumstances. If I were you I would make a list of pros and cons. Hash out the best case and worst case scenarios and make your decision based on how you feel after looking at it from every angle.
Post # 20
Tough decision. I don’t have a baby yet, but if you’re working from home, I think it would be doable. It might also make it easier to go back to work. Only you can know what’s best, but since you love your job, I think you can make it work if you want to. Best of luck!
Post # 21
You can’t claim mat leave/pay and have an income. If you are capable of bringing in income, they will cut you off.
Post # 22
It sounds like a decision that can’t really be made until you know YOUR baby. Maybe he’ll like long naps that would give you a few hours a week to do some stuff from home, maybe not. I know that my FI’s cousin was able to do some freelance stuff in her field while she was on mat leave with her first, but I don’t think she did anything until her son was a few months old.