(Closed) Working Bees who struggle or have struggled with anxiety…

posted 5 years ago in Career
  • poll: Have you ever had a panic/anxiety attack? You can vote on multiple choices.
    Yes, once or twice. : (17 votes)
    23 %
    Yes, a handful of times. : (18 votes)
    24 %
    Yes, many times. : (25 votes)
    34 %
    Yes, but not in a long time (1+ years). : (9 votes)
    12 %
    No, never. : (5 votes)
    7 %
    I'm not sure. : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
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    3947 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Congratulations on your achievements thus far!  I often see myself confining myself to my home for long stretches of time in the near future.  Leaving the house is becoming a lot more of a task than I would like.

    Working every day, for me, is a struggle.  My axiety gives me many physical issues that leave me running to the bathroom a couple of times a day.  Luckily I have my own office so can close the door and put my head down when I feel an attack coming on. 

    Interviewing will be the hardest part, and that’s only an hour or so.  It will all get better from here!!!  Best of luck!

    Post # 4
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    3583 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    @bunnyharriet:  yup. But I also have a stash of valium and xanax in case I need it. Ultimately I just need to change jobs because its just too stressful for someone as ‘sensitive’ as me. It’s been four years of pure hell.

    Post # 5
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    8884 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    I suffer from Generalized Anxiety Disorder. I’ve been on two different medications, but came off a few months ago. I’m working hard to deal with my anxiety on my own.

    I’ve had several panic attacks, a couple of them have been at work on the job. I can’t lie, straight up – it’s embarassing. But I haven’t had a full blown attack in a couple of years.

    There are a couple of things I do when I get worked up at the job.  I step away for 5 minutes, to just breathe.  Then I tell myself “Honestly what is THE worst thing that can happen right now?” and it never is what happens.

    I have a great Darling Husband and wonderful friends and family that have really helped too.

    Post # 6
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    283 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    before being pregnant, i always made sure i had my medicine at work, just in case.  sometimes if im having a hard time controling my anxiety, i just go to the back or the bathroom & take a couple deep breaths & try to get it together.  If i dont go as soon as i feel it coming on, i will obsess over it & then let it really get me in a panic!

    Post # 7
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    2116 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I take medication as needed. That solves it for me. 

     

    But not working was never ever an option for me. Not since I was like 13. And at this point, it really REALLY isn’t an option.

     

    For me, the anxiety/panic/consequences I feel RE: not working FAR outweigh the anxiety I have to deal with because of work.

    Post # 8
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    1695 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    @Lyndzo:  This. 

    Reminding myself rationally of what the absolute worst consequence can be really helps, because usually the worst case scenario is not as bad as the panic attack. 

    Post # 9
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    966 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2016

    I used to have panic attacks frequently when I was a teenager… nobody knew what it was though. I went to SO many doctors. A couple suggested a psychologist, but my dad was convinced it wasn’t mental. Anyway, I basically skipped a semester (maybe two?) in college, and only took like two classes one semester… I didn’t work. I had no idea what was going on. I was basically house-ridden and feared going out or doing anything because I didn’t want to feel crazy sick in public. I also couldn’t eat because I felt so sick… for some reason all I could eat was plain hamburger burger meat and tomatoes with salt and pepper… Maybe it was partially physical as well; I don’t know.

    I had a panic attack in acting class in front of everyone, it was horrible. A guy in the class was really nice and recognized what was happening and said he used to have the same problems. He recommended I read the book “Hope & Help for Your Nerves” http://www.amazon.com/Hope-Help-Your-Nerves-Signet/dp/0451167228

    It was AMAZING to realize what was going on and that I wasn’t DYING… which I was afraid I was. They even had me get an MRI for brain tumors. It was horrible. The doctor gave me some Valium for the night to sleep, because I was like X_X when he said “brain tumor,” and… wow, that was the worst night ever. It knocked me out for about two hours, and then I woke up basically in a panic; I felt like a drug addict going through withdrawal. I was shaky, sweating, hot, cold, sick, my brain was all over the place… so horrible. Valium = never again. 

    Mine might have been different than yours… I think it depends.

    I think the biggest thing I learned that helped me is to just let the panic attack happen and not fear or FIGHT it. Once I learned what it was, I knew nothing was going to happen. I wasn’t going to die, pass out, throw up, etc… and I knew it would be gone, and I just had to ride it out. Once I thought about “what’s the worst that could happen, really?” I was able to put it into perspective. In my head I’d reapet “It’s okay” over and over repeatedly, and try to just focus on those worse and nothing else, because I have a huge fear of vomiting or having some illness… so whenever I felt nauseous, it would snowball.

    I was afraid to work and start working also, and sometimes I would feel myself starting to panic, and I’d try to just let it happen and take many deep breaths and again, in my head saying “It’s okay, I’m fine, everything is fine,” and only reassuring things like that. I started retail, which kept me physically busy… and I found being busy actually helped. It would be worse when I wasn’t really doing much.

    Are you speaking of just GAD or panic attacks in particular? 

    I’ve been off my rx of Nortriptyline (anxiety/depression/nerve issues) for about a week or so now… first time in like a decade. o_o
    My doctor’s theory was that it also might have been a physical problem… nerves misfiring in my stomach (which resulted in sickness/nausea, possibly, which would cause the panic attacks many times. Sometimes I just had them completely randomly though, so I most likely still had a legit panic disorder). I don’t like the idea of long term meds so I wanted to get off of them, and so far I’m pretty okay. Sometimes I feel sick more I think (could still be just a withdrawal though), but I haven’t paniced over it yet. My chest sometimes hurts, and sometimes I feel panicy and hot when I feel sick, but I’ve been able to mentally talk myself down and not let it really get to a panic attack.

    In my experience though, while working was scary, it was better for me and once I had a bit of control over the panic attacks, I was able to continue, and keeping busy was good for me. Realizing what my fears during the panic attack were was helpful. Like, why was I so much more afraid of having one in public versus my house? I was mostly afraid of throwing up in front of people (or at all). And when I realized that it wasn’t going to happen, it was better. Or I would look around and find something I could quickly/easily throw up into, like a paper bag or trash cash. That was some relief. If not, I’d walk to the bathroom and cool myself down with some water or walk outside if it was the winter time. 

     

    So basically… if you’re trying to overcome panic attacks…

    Figure out what makes you so afraid of having a panic attack in front of people or in public, and address that. Also, create an escape plan for when it gets bad, like going to the bathroom, walking outside, sitting in your car. KNOW those options are ALWAYS available, and you don’t have to be afraid to be in public.

    Address any triggers you might have, and try to deduce what about those situations/instances causes a panic attack, and why it might be causing them.

    Don’t fight them. Let them happen and know they’ll be gone, and nothing will happen because of them.

    Give yourself a time frame. Look at the clock and say “I’ll feel better and it will be gone in 20 minutes.” If it’s 7:30, find comfort that by 7:50, it’ll all be over. Because usually they don’t last that long. And know nothing will happen to you between those two times except just feeling crappy.

    Take deep breaths and mentally reassure yourself; don’t let other thoughts take over your mind. Just focus on those words/phrases, and nothing else. 

    Exercise also helps. 

     

    I’ve had a looott of history with them, so feel free to ask if you’d like any more opinions 😛

    Post # 10
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    1652 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    Well done on all your achievements!!

    I don’t have much advise, but I just wanted to say that I also suffer from anxiety, though mine hasn’t stopped me from working completely I had to change jobs as I can’t speak in public or drive due to such bad panicking my mind goes blank and I almost pass out.

    Don’t push yourself too hard at first. Good luck 🙂

    Post # 11
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    2759 posts
    Sugar bee

    First off, congratulations on your achievements! Where did you get that workbook? I’d like to try it, especially since you’ve had so much success working through it.

    I’ve always been anxious, but my anxiety got BAD earlier this year in late July/early August. I broke up with my ex-FI in May and he moved out and I was doing okay, but I have a lot of anxiety about being alone and health stuff, and after a trip to the gym where I overexercised and didn’t eat, I almost passed out by myself downtown. I had a MASSIVE panic attack that lasted for days upon days. I could barely function at work and went home two times, then missed about 4-5 days total. I was convinced something was physically wrong with me, which didn’t help, but I know now it was all symptoms of my panic.

    Through a combination of working through the panic/anxiety, starting a combo anti-depressant/anxiety med and weekly therapy, I’ve gotten a lot better. What helped for me was thinking of work as one of my “safe” zones. I know this probably won’t be as easy for you since you’ll just be starting whereas I’ve been here for 3 years. I’m big on safe zones and a feeling of safety, so when I started telling myself work was one of the safest places to be b/c I’m surrounded by people who know who I am and could help me if anything happened, I stopped being afraid of being here.

    I’m finally starting to be able to be more independent again, but it took a while. I still freak at the idea of doing stuff like going to the mall or the grocery store alone, but I can walk to the corner store in my neighborhood or go places during my lunch hour at work.

    I think you’ll be fine. You just have to use the tools you’ve developed for fighting anxiety and panic and remind yourself that work is a safe environment. There are stressors that come with any job, so maybe try and find some kind of employment where the stress level is lower than, say, food service.

    Post # 13
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    1471 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    @bunnyharriet:  As someone else who suffers anxiety (although mine is different, but I started meds yesterday, so it’s very “on the mind” so to speak) I want to say congratulations on how far you have come, and all the best on the interview!

    Post # 14
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    11234 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @KateByDesign:  Ooh, I wonder if anxiety is the reason for my FI’s stomach issues. :

    I have panic attacks a lot. Barf.

    Post # 15
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    3947 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    @vorpalette:   I wouldn’t doubt it.  My anxiety LIVES in my stomach.  Which is really really embarrassing.

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