- 6 years ago
My Fi and I work together however, to give each other space, I tend to work from the living room and he works from the home office. It helps as we both have to make calls and while we have a 20X13 home office and my desk is in there, I still feel like I am shouting over him.
We have agreed that after the wedding I will run the biz on my own and he is going to look for a permanent role with benefits, so we have some stability financially, just in case the staffing industry tanks and I am without a paycheque.
So all day, imay see him at lunch briefly when I make him a sandwich, or passing by the house. The other day he walked in on me while I was pooping. Like OMG.
Even though we try to give each other privacy, at night, he still hibernates in his back office. Every night, he sits on the computer…reading articles, looking at stuff, watching things online…and basically IGNORES me. No cuddling, touches, hugs-nothing.
Usually he falls asleep in the chair, on the sofa, or comes to bed at like MIDNIGHT or later.
It is DRIVING ME UP THE FRIGGING WALL.
Mostly because he told me that his ex used to say t ohim “what the heck are you doing in there” when he would lock himself in his office”. He said he did this because he wanted to get away from her. Not that I think he is trying to get away from me, but um, it is sitting in the back of my mind.
Last night, point blank, I said to him “Can I say something, please? I really find that lately you have been in this back office all day and all night. I barely see you and feel that it is kinda killing our alone time, intimacy time, what do you think?”
He kinda stood there and said “ya, it kinda sucks me being back here all night, doesn’t it?”
He then didn’t say anything else, let the dog in. I went up to bed. He followed about twenty minutes later.I woke up this morning with a friggin slobbering dog on me as he thought it would be awesome to bring the puppy into the bed.
Needless to say, I am sitting here fuming. Fuming, fuming, fuming MAD.
I havent had sex in almost 2 weeks so now I am getting cranky. Help!