Post # 1
My friend is due in about a week and she told me she’s planning on returning to work 6 weeks after the baby is born. Her husband works from home full time during business hours and their plan is for him to watch the baby while working from home. Is this really a feasible idea?
I don’t have children but this seems like it would be really difficult, more or less so depending on how fussy or mellow the baby is and how much it naps. Then when the baby gets older, how would you work when it starts crawling and getting into things? Plus how would you play and interact with the baby while trying to work? Maybe I’m not a good multi-tasker but her idea just seems insane to me…
Post # 2
This is the kind of thing people who have never had children think is a good idea and people who have had children find laughable.
Newborns might sleep a lot but babies require a lot of attention. They should look into having some help come in or something because he’s either going to be neglecting his job or neglecting the baby.
And I say this as someone who worked from home with a toddler in the house- my mother was with him so I could actually focus on doing my work.
Post # 3
lilyflower08 : Not for me! Some days the baby was so fussy, I couldn’t even find time to shower and get dressed, let alone get anything done.
Still, not your problem.
Post # 4
I mean, that’s what my parents did with me and my brother so to say that it’s not possible seems extreme to me. I think it’s doable, but probably less of a neat fix than they’re expecting in that it’s going to be a lot harder to juggle things than they’re probably thinking, even if they have taken it into account. There is a reason that childcare is an employment field of its own – it’s a job on its own. But then again, I know my dad pulled it off. Though, my mom was the primary breadwinner so I know that meant there was a lot less stress on my dad’s job in that respect.
Post # 5
Sounds totally crazy to me. I have an 18 month old and there is no way I could have worked from home at any point during his life so far. A woman I know started working from home when her daughter was 6 months old and she sticks her in front of the TV all day to get anything done. I feel sad for the little girl cos she’s basically somewhat neglected in front of the TV.
Post # 6
honestly, this is one of the many plans I’ve heard first time parents to be tell me. as with most, it ended up being a fantasy and the reality is they found a daycare.
one thing I’ve learnt, especially as someone with no kids, is it’s better not to say anything when first time parents to be tell me their plans. just smile..
you’re gonna teach your baby baby sign language? cool, can’t wait to see that.
you’re gonna use maternity leave to write that paper you never find time to write? sounds good.
you’re gonna use maternity leave to learn tennis/take up tennis lessons? neat, how fun.
you’re going to foster a litter of kittens while caring for your newborn? how cute.
they will figure it out without your input, no point being a Debbie downer
Post # 7
When I first had DS, I worked from home part-time. My schedule overlapped my husband’s so there were two hours every day where I had to both work and take care of DS. It sucked and I quit my job after four months. Granted, my job was a factor. My employer made me keep my full-time workload and responsibilities. But those two hours a day were so stressful. I felt I wasn’t giving either my job or DS my full attention and I hated that for both. I wouldn’t say it’s impossible but my guess is in most cases, it wouldn’t be doable. I did have one co-worker who worked from home with her kids there but I honestly don’t know how she did it. It worked for her though!
Post # 8
The first conference call he has to try to get through with a child screaming in the background or the first deadline he misses because it’s really not as easy as it sounds and they will be scrambling for child care.
Post # 9
No…I don’t think it’s very realistic. I mean, financially you have to do what you have to do…and if daycare is unaffordable or unavailable, and no one else is able to help out then it might be the only option. However, I think ultimately you end up being unable to do either job (the job you get paid for, or the job of parenting) well because you can’t ever focus properly on one or the other. A few hours of overlap I could see working, but a whole 8 hour work day? Nah. I will say–I do know a few people that are giving it a shot though. One is a freelancer, so she can flex her time to work when her husband is home. The other hasn’t had her babies (yes…twins) yet, but mentioned that if it doesn’t work they’ll hire a nanny.
Post # 10
i have a 13m old. i work from home 2 days a weeks. many mornings, my husband leaves for work before my mom (our nanny) get there. it is very hard to work with him. he wants my attention. he wants to do what i’m doing and be on my computer. when he was a newborn, and just slept, it was ok. but not sincee 10ish months.
also, at my office, i sign a policy that i will not use telework at childcare. i could get in trouble. my supervisor knows i occasionally have a 30-60 minute window without another adult in the house and she said that was fine.
i can’t imagine being on a conference call with my child jumping and whining at my feet to be picked up.
Post # 11
amanda1988 : well i did teach my baby sign langauge and i am a FTM and full time working mom.
he doesn’t sign fluently, i don’t either, but i learned a few words that i knew would be helpful to us and we practice those.
he tells me when he is hungry, when he wants his bedtime bottle, when he is all done eating, when he wants more of something. we are working on please and thank you now. i started at 4m, he is 13m now.
Post # 12
I don’t think it sounds very feasible, but it’s also not really your business/place to question or worry about it.
I do know that I have a 4 day old and unless a miracle happens in the next 6 weeks, there’s no way I could work with him here even though all he does right now is sleep and eat. If not for my husband I wouldn’t have been able to eat in the last 48 hours, much less take a phone call.
Post # 13
Yeah, I can’t see that working out. I mean, I don’t find it that hard that you can’t even get a shower in that day- but I also don’t think I could work full time from home while caring for my infant. Yesterday my 3.5 month old crapped herself all up her back and then bazooka barfed all over herself while I am trying to clean up the poo. So I’m having to bathe her, spray&wash her clothes, start laundry etc. How could I adddress that when I’m supposed to be working?
Post # 14
I have an easygoing baby and this would be impossible to do and keep my job. I had to work from home and attempt to watch my 8 month old twice this winter thanks to snow days and it was horrendous.
Post # 15
Nope, not feasible. Unless maybe it’s the type of job where it doesn’t matter what hours he works? Like he could work a few hours during nap time and then work in the evenings/night once his wife his home? That could work if he doesn’t need a full 40 hours… It might be doable (but difficult) for a few months but I don’t see it feasible long term. If you try, both jobs will suffer.