Post # 31
I don’t work from home, but have the option if needed. I did once when my baby was sick (he’s 6 months), cos Darling Husband (who was unemployed at the time) had a job interview and DS couldn’t obviously be home alone. It was tough. We don’t have the same amenities as daycare, so moving him from station to station, and rocking when needed interupted my work so I wasn’t as productive. When he napped, that was fine but he only does an hour at a time so you’re still not really diving into what you need to do.
I realized on leave that you can’t get much done with a baby at home, unless they are OK being put into swings/PnPs, jumpers, etc. And as a newborn, like mine, he didn’t like anything unless he was held.
Post # 32
I think it is doable in the begining if 1) he has a very flexible schedule and 2) baby is a easy going, sleepy, low fuss baby. My coworker did this for nearly the first year but he worked 4-8am, during baby’s nap, and a couple hours after his wife got home from work. Not ideal but it worked. He agreed it would be possible once the child gets older and naps less.
Post # 33
- Wedding: March 2016 - Surfer\'s Beach, Grand Cayman
My husband and his business partner both work from home, his partner’s wife just returned to work and he is now watching the baby during the day, but he has to work mostly when his wife gets home and into the night because it’s just not feasible to really get much work done with a baby. Could you get some done? Sure, but I would say it’s not possible to get a full work day done while caring for a baby of any age.
Post # 34
amanda1988 : You’re totally right that it’s best to smile and nod, but I’m another one confused about why signing is included. I read your follow-ups that it’s one of the most abandoned plans but I haven’t seen this and don’t understand why it would be. It’s so easy and so useful. I taught one of my kids sign language as a baby and it was great. Plus that kid now has a genius-level IQ and I can’t help wondering if the signing had something to do with that. (Is it less braggy if I say my other kid has an average IQ? They both have strengths and weaknesses.) (And it could be coincidence that the signing kid’s strength is braininess.)
lilyflower08 : He cray. However, see above about smiling and nodding.
Post # 35
LGenz : Right?! I think I had to work from home and take care of my Dear Daughter twice as well. It’s miserable…you fail at both caring for your child and accomplishing anything at work. Even easy babies are a lot of work (but still the awesomest thing ever) 🙂
Post # 36
I could only see that working if he works for himself. If he works for an employer, that employer is paying him to work and you can’t work and care for a baby at the same time. You just can’t do it. I work from home some days but I would still have daycare if I had a child because I know I can’t actually work and care for a baby and if my employer found out it’d be trouble. It’s one thing to throw a load of laundry on during my lunch break, a baby is 24/7 care. But it’s up to them, it’s their lives.
Post # 37
Daisy_Mae : I dunno. just my experience.
it’s cool to hear that it’s not actually so hard to teach. my friends who abandoned it are all pretty ambitious people so I assumed if they couldn’t do it, there was no way I ever would be able to.. but perhaps thats not true. I was planning to try anyway. not gonna lie, I was hoping that having trained my dog in hand signals I might have a leg up. (oddly, just realized none of my friends have a dog.. not that it’s relevant, just another interesting sampling issue amongst the people I know.)
perhaps, as with many things baby related, the baby himself (or herself) dictates what will and won’t happen once they arrive.
Post # 38
lilyflower08 : Bahahaha no it is not feasible. I telecommute and there is no way I would have a baby with me at home. My son is either at preschool or daycare when I am working.
Post # 39
amanda1988 : I understand what you’re saying about the baby sign language… maybe it’s just our group of friends, mine were the same. During pregnancy many declared they would teach sign language but then when the baby arrived and months down the track they didn’t bother to teach the sign language. I asked one close friend, they never fully explained why, I think they were embarassed.
Like you Amanda, I don’t have kids yet but if/when I do I will try to teach the baby sign language. Hearing all the success stories here makes it totally seem doable.
Post # 41
pinkdandelion : hahah yeah the first time (also the first friend of mine to have a baby) I asked my friend “ooh does he know sign language now? Can you show me?!” and he sheepishly grinned and said no. He did caveat that his son knew one or two words, so I suppose it depends on how you define success. This same couple was the couple that planned for her to work from home and care for baby at the same time, but ended up getting a daycare.
I learned to ask after these things more subtly after that. It’s not my intention to make anyone feel bad for not finding the time to do things: having a newborn seems like a really hard job. If the baby is clothed and fed I think the parents are doing just fine.
Post # 42
- Wedding: December 2017 - Courthouse
As someone who nannies part time and works from home part time as a recruiter….LOL.