- 7 years ago
- Wedding: May 2012
So FH and I have had some discussions in the past about babies, family, working etc. I have mentioned to him that I find working full time to be very stressful (I’m a nurse in a hospital and am on my feet all day, and also think my job is emotionally taxing at times). I love what I do, but I think I’d find it more rewarding if I didn’t have to work 40+ hours a week. We both are dedicated to saving some money now and working toward our future so I know I have to work full time, but an eventual goal of mine is to be able to make enough money between the two of us so I could drop my hours as soon as we have a baby (we are planning on a baby within the next 5 years or so) and continue to only work part time until the kids are older.
Whenever we talk about this, FH says “well that would be optimal, but you know most “normal” adults work full time” and he says “I hope we can do that, but most families in this country can’t”. He just acts really negative, like the thought of it makes him really uncomfortable. Once he even said “Everyone wishes they could work less, but working full time is just what people DO. It’s reality”.
I’ve told him that I don’t like his attitude when we talk about this and I need more of a guarantee that if we have kids, I will not be forced to work full time (or get guilt tripped and sassed all the time if I do choose to work part time). He just says “We’ll cross that bridge when we come to it”.
He makes enough money at his job where we could get by on his salary plus whatever I would make working part time, but we wouldn’t be well off by any means. But I think that having time for other things in life and being there to raise children is more important than affording more luxuries.
Anyway…..anyone else run into this kind of problem? I dont know how to approach this. I mean, I COULD work fulltime, and be a mom and “do it all” but I just don’t think I’d be happy. I’d like to hear from others out there…