Post # 16
annabananabee : Part of me would actually like to be a Stay-At-Home Mom, but it would be tough financially. We could live frugally on his income alone, but it would be very tough to support a family long-term. If we have two kids in daycare, the cost will be more than my take home pay, so that’s a potential issue. However, since I am already almost 32 and my doctor said she’s concerned about potential fertility problems with my cycles being long, I don’t really want to worry about kid #2 just yet.
Post # 17
I have a six month old and find even working full time difficult. I miss him so much and barely have an hour or so with him in the evening before he needs to go to bed. If you are really wishing to be a stay at home mom your plan will be very difficult emotionally.
Post # 18
I currently work full-time as an RN (x3 12-hour shifts per week), am in a part-time doctorate program (7-8 credits per semester) and we have a 20-month old toddler. It is hard. Like, really really hard. Our daughter was unplanned as we had originally wanted to wait until I graduated to have kids.
Before you undertake this, be very very sure that you can get a lucrative job in your new chosen field and that you will make enough to afford daycare and contribute the amount that you and your husband agree on. Luckily you won’t have student debt (awesome!). Be sure that your husband is willing to take on sole parenting in the evenings and be sure that you are willing to basically not see your baby (or husband!) on days that you have work and school. You will also probably have work at home to do for your school, so take that into account. Plus your baby won’t sleep through the night for 4-5 months (best case scenario). If you are breastfeeding, add pumping into the equation. Not trying to be Debby Downer and it definitely can be done if you are sure that’s what you want BUT it is not easy at all. Good luck!
Post # 19
I work full time as a teacher, am doing my Masters degree part time and I have an 18 month old as well as actively TTC.
Right now, work school and mom life is possible. I just need to stay organized. If I were to fall pregnant, I would probably defer the term where the baby would be a newborn. I’m also ok with having to drop grad school for awhile if I feel the need, though. It’s definitely possible but also, dont feel like you be failed if you decide that it’s too much.