(Closed) Working in a high-end jewelry store… With a moissanite engagement ring?

posted 6 years ago in Career
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper

Hm, there are some situations in which a given engagement ring is not appropriate to wear. Maybe it’s a large diamond ring and you’re volunteering with the homeless. Maybe it’s a delicate ring and you’re doing rough work with your hands. Etc.

I would say this is one of those situations.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

To me, “finest diamonds only” doesn’t mean “we only approve of diamonds”, but rather “we provide diamonds, and ours are the finest quality”. It doesn’t seem like an aspersion on other gems, just a statement that the diamonds they sell are top-notch. 

What if…you guys were getting a sapphire engagement ring? Or a pearl? Or any other non-diamond? Would you be worried about what he’d think, then, or would you think that he’d figure you guys chose the stone you did for personal reasons? 

I wouldn’t opt out of a job for the sake of what my future boss would think of my future engagement ring. At the very least, take the job, if offered, and then down the line, before the proposal, bring up moissanite as a topic. Say you find these rings gorgeous, but you never pictured yourself with a diamond engagement ring. Something like that. Ease into it, so that when the proposal happens, they know it’s the ring you’ve been dreaming of, rather than a “man’s attempt to make a ring seem ‘more’ than it is” (not at all my thoughts on moissanite, just an example of what someone might think, but probably wouldn’t).

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Step 1: Do not wear your ring to any interviews.

 

Step 2: Do not wear your ring for a couple weeks on the job while they get to know and like you (or turn it around. If asked later why, just say it slipped your mind or something.)

 

Step 3: Wear ring, say nothing about it, watch everyone assume it’s a diamond. (I know they don’t look EXACTLY the same, but it’s pretty close if you’re not inspecting it in detail and just because you work with jewelers doesn’t mean someone’s going to put your ring under a loupe, I assume… how pushy that would be.)

 

Step 4: If anyone asks about the details of your diamond, the correct answer is “Honestly, it was such a personal gift, it seems rude to ask him. All that matters is how beautiful and meaningful it is.” (Gaze adoringly at it, return to work.)

 

You’re not lying, you’re just playing like he gave you this beautiful ring and you’re so enamored with it and him that you couldn’t care less about the details.

(Edit: OK, you’re lying a little, but it’s not serious ;D)

 

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@joya_aspera:  Well, a little bit. But just a little bit. I’d tell a small hurting-nobody white lie to keep a job I loved. (Hasn’t everyone done this on occasion?)

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee

I don’t really think your personal choices should matter if you’re a good employee and do what’s asked of you at work. Wear your moissy and just don’t flaunt the fact that it is moissy if you’re around people that will judge you. It’s your choice, it’s not like you’re going to try and sabotage the jewelry store by telling customers to buy moissanite instead of their jewelry.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper

@Bebealways:  I think a jewelry store owner would see it as a whopper, actually… even lying by omission would probably not go over well… You have to understand, when people are really into something, when the tinest details of the quality of it matters so much to them, when buying and selling them is their whole livelihood, etc., doing something like that can be seen as really disrespectful. And I don’t know your familiarity with moissanite, but I don’t think that “playing” like that would go quite as successfully as you’re envisioning.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

It sucks, but it’s not the end if the world if you can’t wear your ring to work, especially if the job is temporary. 

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Lying about it would make her seem like she doesn’t know her product. The whole staff would be saying “she doesn’t know that’s not a diamond” behind her back.

Post # 12
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Busy bee

I wouldn’t stress about this. It’s not like you are getting a 4 carat ring and trying to pass it off. Hopefully they have better things to do than to pull your ring off your hand and look at it through a loupe. 

If you are really worried about it I’d get a band and just wear that to work, especially if you think this wont be a long therm job. 

If I was really worried I’d probably not wear anything the first few weeks and then start wearing it after I’ve gotten to know people and feel comfortable. No one is going to point to a new ring and say that you’ve been hiding it…

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@joya_aspera: 

@mockblock:

Maybe you’re right, I don’t know enough about moissanite, I just figured that without close inspection nobody would even notice, but if they’re that likely to be able to tell then obviously that’s not the way to go. 

 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I wouldn’t wear it for the interview, but I would wear it at work. Just because you work at the jewelry store doesn’t mean you have to BE the jewelry store, ya know?

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee

@Bebealways:  

 

Step 4: If anyone asks about the details of your diamond, the correct answer is “Honestly, it was such a personal gift, it seems rude to ask him. All that matters is how beautiful and meaningful it is.” (Gaze adoringly at it, return to work.)

 

To which the helpful boss says,”Lets just put it under the loupe and take a look.”

I think I’d just leave the ring at home.  Later if they ask, then depending upon how long I’d worked there, the general tone, how well we got along etc,  I MIGHT say something like,”financially we were not able to do a diamond so we decided on a moissanite.  I didn’t want to conflict with the products sold in the store so I don’t wear it to work.”   Then they either say… we don’t care wear it. Or they confirm that you did the right thing. 

 

 

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