Working, in a relationship, late 20's… realistic to make new girlfriends?

posted 12 months ago in Relationships
Post # 16
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Helper bee

Just like everyone else said, its hard! Convenience has definitely been the biggest factor in making new friends at this age. Co-workers and next-door neighbors are the only new girlfriends I’ve made in years.

Post # 17
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

My experience is similar to Sunshine’s above. I have made a number of extremely close friends in my late 20s and 30s (although admittedly I was single for most of that time). Most of these came from a sports club I’m involved with, which enforces social time at least twice a week. I also rented out one of my spare rooms in my house and one of my tenants became super close (I spent Christmas with their family).

I also found that I made good friends with people outside of my own age range. For example, I agreed to house sit for a retired couple I know, and I’ve since been on holiday with them. They are like adopted parents now. 

Downside is that HB and I are very busy so we don’t see each other as much as we’d like.

Post # 18
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Tbh the only way i made close friends in my 30s was by becoming a mom and meeting other moms. 

Post # 19
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

Yup, it’s pretty hard to meet new people at this point (I’m 28) unless you change up your day to day routine (which I don’t have any motivation to do). I met my last best friend at 22.

Darling Husband and I lament that our network of close friends to do fun stuff with (started with about mutual 25 friends) dwindles each year as people move far away for jobs or have children and lose interest in Friday night hang outs. While on the same token, we haven’t made too many new friends over the years (usually new friends are mutual friends of other friends but at this point, we know everyone lol)

Post # 20
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Blushing bee

Oh gosh I feel this in my soul. I was in a long-term relationship throughout university with someone I had been friends with for five years previously, so a lot of our friends were mutual/his. I then moved overseas for two years, and when I moved back I had lost touch with a lot of people / didn’t contact them due to awkwardness with the ex.

I am 27 now and have recently moved interstate to be with my SO. My workplace has pretty much only older, married with children/grandchildren (and mostly men) and two young guys (20 yrs old), so I’m pretty stuck for options there. I am also not really involved in any group activities and am basically a homebody, so it’s near impossible to make any friends, let alone get close to them. My SO moved from overseas to be with me, so he also has no friends here (although he has a few more options with his colleagues, and we have gone out for dinner with them a coulpe of times).

No advice, sorry. Still trying to figure it out for myself.

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