Working mom shaming

posted 11 months ago in Parenting
Post # 61
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653 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

I’d probably go with the tried and true “bye Felicia”

Post # 62
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2021

pinkemeraldrose :  Who the fuck are these women and why are you calling them your friends?

Here’s the deal – whatever choices you make as a woman, there will be a lineup of assholes waiting to judge you for it. Choose not to have kids, you’re selfish. Choose to have them and stay home, you’re a useless mombie. Choose to have kids and work, you’re not dedicated enough to your kids. Anyone who thinks it is their place to judge your choices and how you and your Darling Husband choose to run your home and family life can fuck right off. 

Post # 63
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2021

slomotion :  “that’s nice, dear” is my go-to response to unsolicited criticism from people whose opinions I don’t care about. It’s deadly.

Post # 64
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Sugar bee

Women and especially mothers seem to get judged for EVERYTHING these days.

Where I’m from it’s much more common for women to keep working and my stay-at-home sister gets all kinds of passive aggressive comments from working mothers (including her own MIL). Like “oh… so what do you DO all day?” 

I can’t think of any witty comebacks, but I’d probably just tell them to fuck off and stop spending any time with them. Those are not friends. 

 

Post # 65
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

pinkemeraldrose :  I have no come backs for you, sorry. But don’t worry, SAHMs are shit on and belittled no stop, they are probably just projecting or trying to cut you off before you can say something to make them feel worthless (not that YOU would, but plenty of working women are just knawing at the bit waiting for that opportunity) I’m a SAHSM to 4 kids fulltime, doing everything for a household of 6 everyday despite having never had a child myself and never getting to hear myself be called “mom” and no time alone with my husband ever because there are 2 dofferent bio mom’s and only one ever takes her kids for a weekend, the other one doesn’t gaf, and I constantly hear “omg, you don’t work? That must be so hard on your husband”. So you can’t win, ever being good enough is just a fantasy we entertain to try to keep ourselves from jumping into traffic. 😐😕😳

Post # 66
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Pearson Convention Centre

Your friends are very judgmental. You need to do what’s right for your family. We decided that for us it would be better for me to be a stay at home mom but some of my sisters are working moms and some of their children are in daycare and my mom watches others. Do what’s right for your family 

Post # 67
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Busy bee

Sorry you’re going through this, Bee. Women need to stop judging each other. I’ve already been judged for not wanting to work after having kids. I’ve been told “those days are over” (said by my Mother-In-Law who was lucky enough to stay home with her kids), and “you probably won’t be able to afford to not work” (said by my coworker who can’t possibly know our personal finances… obviously just bitterness talking). So anyway, no matter what decision we make, we’re judged, and it’s 100% on the people doing the judging. It is their pettiness and their insecurities talking. Shake it off, Bee.

Bring home that bacon if that’s your thang, sista wink send your judgy friends a post card from the yearly vacations you can afford to take your kids on each year as a result of being a double-income family. 

Post # 68
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Busy bee

 

I know you’re a smart adult, you don’t really NEED a comeback but some people need to be put in their place, don’t they? Lol!

“If I can have it all…. a wonderful hubby, family looking after our child, me being able to do what I love, then why wouldn’t I? Not everyone gets to have whatever they want, but I do and I thank God every single day for giving me the opportunity to be so happy!”

Post # 72
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

queenie8119 :  aww, thank you. ❤ I fantasize about one day recieving a hand-made item that says “Thanks for being the Mom you didn’t have to be” on it, ever since I saw one in a meme on facebook a few years ago. I saved the picture and I look at it and cry sometimes…..I know that’s pathetic but I’m not ready to let go of the dream yet.

Post # 73
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604 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

pinkemeraldrose :  Moms With Careers Making it All Work

Very supportive group!

Post # 74
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2081 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

Who are these people? Honestly, I wouldn’t resond to them seriously and just cheerfully say something like:

So-Called Friend: “I would never chose career over family”

You: “Really? I would.”

 

S-C F: “Your husband should be able to come up with extra money to provide for his family like a real man, if he loves you, he will figure it out”

You: “Oh, he can’t come up with the extra money because he’s not a real man and he doesn’t love me. Thanks for caring though!”

 

S-C F: “your baby should be your number one priority, when you become a mom you are supposed to make sacrifices”

You: “Nah. My baby isn’t my number one priority.”

 

 

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