Working Opposite Schedules to Avoid Daycare

posted 3 years ago in Parenting
Post # 2
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

This is my expert opinion as a non-parent 😉 but while that sounds logistically sound, I’d worry about you or him getting burnt out. It seems like you and your husband’s downtime from work would be spent taking care of the baby. If you go with that schedule, I’d suggest making sure you both get some non-work, “me time.” Also, I think it would also be important to make sure you both have quality time together as well. I’m sure all that’s easier said than done, but I wanted to mention it. 

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I agree with bretagne– while you have done this same setup before, it will be much different with a baby. Even if you get a sitter for one day a week– whether it is a nanny in your home, an in-home provider, or other– it will allow you to have some time together or running errands, or… fill in the blank. I would at least try to find a few options for one or two days each week. Maybe it would be feasable to work more normal days and get a sitter for just Friday.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

MissBridge :  Definitely! At least be prepared with a sitter option, and if you find that it’s manageable, you can always scale back.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

No great advice to add here as another non-parent, but my husband’s parents actually did this with him. He was a surprise baby, 9 years younger than his middle brother. His mom was a nurse and worked night shifts, and his dad worked a typical 9-5. I haven’t spoken with them in detail on how this worked, but obviously I think my husband turned out just great, and my ILs are still very happy together nearly 30 years later 🙂

Post # 9
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Buzzing Beekeeper

MissBridge :  My husband and I did this and it worked very well. In our case, it didn’t completely eliminate daycare, but we were able to limit it to a couple hours a couple times a week instead of all day every day. Even after the kids were old enough to not need daycare, it still was very helpful for things like doctor’s appointments and taking care of other family business. There are some downsides. My husband and I would sometimes go a few days without having a real conversation or together time, but we made it work and I’d say it was worth it.

Post # 10
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Blushing bee

This will be us when I return to work. My husband works weekends so we will be able to limit our time need for daycare. It is shift work and will be our life until my husband becomes more senior in the company. 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

My husband and I do something similar. We have a 16 month old and plan to try for another soon. He has Tuesday’s and Wednesday’s off and I have Sunday’s and Monday’s off. Its not exactly what you’re talking about because up until recently, my son was in daycare part-time on Thursday and Friday, and my mom watches him on Saturdays. Now that my dad is retired, he watches him on Th and Fri instead and one or both of my parents watch him on Saturday. I also cut down my hours from 8 hours to 6 on the 3 days that neither Darling Husband or myself is home. It sucks not seeing each other as much, but we never had days off together before due to the nature of our jobs- sales and the medical field. I am tired but once my son started sleeping through the night, it was fine. We all have sacrifices we have to make but I don’t see having all of my free time spent with my son as being a sacrifice; it’s what I signed up for as a parent.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I’m pregnant with my first child now, and my husband and I expect to do something very similar.   He will work during the week and I work on the weekends.  However, I don’t work during the summers, we have mosto evenings off together, and my parents live nearby and can help sometimes if we need it.  We know it will be tough, but we will be in a much better financial situation, and both get to spend more time with our child.   We will have to make a big effort to keep up with our relationship, but we have done long distance and worked opposite schedules in the past and know we can make the effort to do it  

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

We are doing this, started 2 weeks ago when I returned to work. I leave when he gets home. I work part time so the time he takes care of her it’s not that long. But their relationship is already stronger because they get one on one time together. We spend the weekends together, and some time before bed. If you keep working on your relationship I think you’ll be fine and so will we.

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