Post # 1
And I’m suddenly really overwhelmed… Like, completely.
In 3 weeks, I’m getting married. In 4 weeks, I’m moving home. And until that wedding, I’m going to be busy busy busy.
And it’s just…overwhelming. I’ve been doing thank yous from my first bridal shower (my church threw me one as a thank-you to all that I’ve been involved with over the past year). I’m overwhelmed with how much people care about me, I’m overwhelmed by how much there is left to do, I’m overwhelmed by the idea of leaving my family, I’m overwhelmed by the knowledge that when I see my fiance in 2 weeks (LDR) we won’t say goodbye again, I’m just overwhelmed. It’s a lot to take in. There is so much going on. So many things to do, so many places to be, so many things to get…
And I know I should be asking for help. I do. But…I don’t know what to ask for. My bridesmaids all live out of state. They can’t just come over and work on these schedules or seating arrangements or grab a flippin drink with me. I know they want to. They constantly ask what they can do to help ease my mind or my load, but they’ve all got lives they have to live too. (I like the names bloggers come up with, so I’ma just do that…) MOH/Sister Cute Stuff just moved into her own house with her fiance, her dog, and has a REALLY tasking job. Bridesmaid or Best Man Blue Eyes just got married in April and is going for her law degree. BM/Sisterinlaw Goofball is in the process of moving from Florida to NEBRASKA with 2 kids under the age of 5 and my brother… And Bridesmaid or Best Man Young’un is 16 with her own 16 year old life. I don’t feel right asking them to drop what they’re doing and help me through something that, when you look at it closer, is trivial.
But all those trivial things are piling up and I feel like I’m drowning under it all. I honestly just want all of this to be over…
Post # 3
@Future.McGuffee: Oh my gosh sweetie, big hugs to you, I know this is super cliche, but I promise you it will all be okay. It sounds like you just need to take a break/breather from your planning, however much time you can afford to do something entirely non wedding planning related, that kind of time is super important! Thank you notes can get super overwhelming – do them when you can, but if you’re not feeling it, I think it’s okay to put them off for a little while until you feel like you have it in you to do so.
Also, take a moment to pamper yourself, you deserve it! Be it, sitting at home with your fiance and a glass of wine, or going to get a mani/pedi, or a full on spa day, take breaks! 🙂
Oh, and of course, reach out to us here on WB to vent, much like you’re doing. I’m available for PMs if you ever just need a moment to cry/rant. I promise you I’ve been there. 🙂
Post # 4
@pengoala: Thank you. It just gets to the point where I can’t take another thing, you know? Like yesterday, I went to Walmart and got to the pajama section and just…stopped there. In the middle of all these pjs. And started crying my booty off because I had no idea what freakin pjs I was going to wear on my honeymoon.
Like, seriously? Ugh. I took today off (basically) from wedding planning; I bought a couple things for the girls’ presents but that was it. I think I can hit it tomorrow and be okay…
Thank you, again. Sorry. I’m rambly tonight.
Post # 5
@Future.McGuffee: Oh sweetie, don’t worry. Ramble away! I remember these feelings as if it were yesterday. There was this one time we were in the middle of trying to hash out our seating chart, and I was trying to figure out what we were having for dinner – I just started bawling like you’ll never believe (honestly, looking back, i don’t even know why i was crying)! DH/FI at the time was so confused!
I’m glad you got to spend some time away from most of the planning today – sometimes stress just gets the best of us.