(Closed) Working to live or Living to work?

posted 3 years ago in Career
Post # 2
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

I have what they call “a passion career”. I am a graphic designer. I am employed full-time in a big corporation. Prior to my current company I worked for an agency-style office, doing big projects that a lot of my friends admired. I was over-worked, underpaid but kept at it because I was doing my “dream” job. However, I just got sick of not having a life so I moved to corporate. I do less creative things, get paid more and have more free-time. My friends don’t admire my decision. But I couldn’t be happier. Enjoying your work is important but nothing is more important than your personal life. No one lays on their death bed and says, “gee, I really wish I would have worked more, spent less time with my family and got paid less.”

Post # 3
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

Same as emmabird, I had a job where I loved the work but I was miserable and had no life.  It was hard when I was looking for a new job and I would get asked the question “what do you do for fun?” and I had to lie because I had absolutely no time for hobbies.  I promised myself that would never happen again and I have kept to that and I am much happier today.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

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chrissybee :  emmm, to be honest, I did a degree that was most vague to give me flexibility afterwards. I did international politics and then international law. I went straight to investment banking and I am loving it! If I win a lottery tmrw I am 100% sure I will keep my job. I live to work. May be later, when I have kids, it will change. But so far I am putting in up to 100h a week cause I am freaking loving my job (and cause I have to lol).

Post # 5
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2018

Work to live, 100%. Anyone who lives to work has their priorities so very, very wrong.

The generally accepted views regarding work/career etc I believe are deeply damaging. Why must all dreams and ambitions be a way to make money? What about the inconvenient truth that dreams and ambitions can change? Or that as soon as something pleasurable becomes something you “have” to do, all the joy is sucked from it? 

My manager tells me I should be more ‘ambitious’ – he doesn’t understand that all my ambitions are personal, soul-nourishing things. He’s an essentially decent guy, but he’s deeply socially awkward and has used title and money as a shield and crutch for so long, people like me confuse him! I think he hired me hoping something would rub off!

It’s perfectly possible to enjoy your job without the job itself being something you care about; as long as the enviroment, people, hours, pay etc suit you and your needs, you can have a good time! Make your money, have a laugh and live your life – let’s be honest, most jobs aren’t that important anyway, they’re not essential to our survival, they’re just made-up. I don’t get stressed at work, if I don’t send one last email before I leave for the day the world will keep turning just fine.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

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chrissybee :  I forgot to add that I enjoy other things in life to the fullest (which also due to my job I can afford) and I do have hobbies, but at this point in life my jo is my main hobby, which brings me most satisfaction, sense of achievement and also a nice pay check. My DH is the same way (also a banker) so it works well for us. We don’t get a lot of time together but when we do we can enjoy it to the fullest and really value that time together!

Post # 7
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Helper bee

I think it should be a nice mixture. I feel like if you live to work you lose sight of other important things in life but if you work to live then I would imagine you would feel pretty tedious and bored in your job which could potentially be depressing. So I think you should enjoy the work you do enough to be happy about heading off to work that day but at the same time it shouldn’t be the be all and end all where you have no other passion in life.

I am a bit like OP, I can’t really think of anything I am super passionate about for work. I am studying nursing though as I do have an interest in health and helping people. So I feel like it’s a nice job to keep me on my toes but at the same time I know there will be other things I look forward to outside of work.

Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

My husband has a career he loves and is very passionate about. I wish I could find that but I haven’t yet. Right now I just want a job that doesn’t make me miserable and pays enough to let me do the things I actually enjoy in life.

Post # 9
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Worker bee

Work to live 100% .. I have some passion in my career but a majority of it is to fund the things I love to do. 

Post # 10
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Sugar bee

I try my hardest to make as much money as I can while working as little as possible. Lol. It’s a fine balance. I guess I fall in the work to live camp.

Post # 11
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Helper bee

Work to live for sure.

To be perfectly honest – I hate working. If I had enough money to live on for the rest of my life, I would never work another day.

Post # 12
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Helper bee

I am a product designer and 100% love what I do. For me, so much time is spent at work, away from family… I wanted it to be ‘worth it’. I enjoy the technology and problem-solving I get to do. And I love making products that people use and enjoy. Thankfully, it is a well-paying position and I live in an area with a lot of opportunity.

I think I’m very lucky, though, because I sort of stumbled into this career. I don’t think there is enough guidance or time allowed to choose a path.

Post # 13
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Busy bee

Work to live. All I want to do is go to the beach or the park and chill, hang out with people, watch movies, etc. I just work to make money to support my lifestyle. 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee

I love my job. I don’t make millions and have a modest house but I totally adore what I’m doing. I’ve moved fields within a general area and love new challenges. 

But part of my loving what I do is because it also gives me the option of having a great home life and opportunities to do other things I enjoy. 

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