Post # 1
A co-worker would like to throw me a workplace bridal shower. When she first mentioned it I said absolutely not. It is rude to ask people to buy you gifts that are not invited to the wedding. Yesterday she told me that she doesn’t care what I say, she has already gotten permission to throw the shower. She says that she is sure that everyone at our workplace is well aware that they will not all be invited but they still want to get a gift. I work with about 70 people and only 12 are invited. Any advice?
Post # 3
Enjoy yourself and say Thank You a lot.
Post # 4
I guess if they want to go there is nothing you can do to stop them. I really wouldn’t want to have it since you aren’t inviting them but it seems like she doesn’t want to not have it.
Post # 5
If they want to throw you a shower, I’d say just say thank you and enjoy it. My coworkers had a shower for me and they weren’t all invited to my wedding. They knew that we were keeping the wedding small, so that only my best work friends were invited. People seemed to be totally fine with that and the shower was fun!
Post # 6
i’ve thrown a couple of workplace showers myself and cannot wait for mine to be thrown. i work for a major auto insurer and there are a couple of hundred people alone in my department, not counting all the friends i’ve made in the departments i worked prior and there is no way they’re all being invited. i’ve already told the girls in my section that i already have the ivory/white streamers and tissue wedding bells in my “party” bin under my desk “just in case”. lol. it’s even funnier when you see that my wedding date isn’t until next october. it’s your day, enjoy it!
Post # 7
I think workplace showers are the exception to the rule. Another work collegue and I are getting married this coming summer and I know this is going to come up for us too (people have hinted at it). Since I don’t feel comforable with gifts (and neither of us need much), I’m going to sugggest they donate to haiti relief in our names.
Post # 8
yeah just make sure everyone knows your wedding is small. Then they’ll get the hint that they may not be invited to the wedding.
But otherwise just go with it and enjoy the shower. Be very thankful.
Post # 9
I say let them have a shower for you and enjoy it! After all, these are people that you might interact with everyday. Even if they are not invited to the wedding (which they can probably understand is for family/friends first), I am sure they want to shower you with their excitement also!
Post # 10
I agree with SoontobeMrsV, the standard rule can be bent for office showers – especially if they know they will not be able to attend the wedding, but would still like to throw you a shower.
Let them go through with it, and be sure to show immense gratitude. =)