(Closed) Workplace gifts..?

posted 6 years ago in Career
  • poll: Would you be okay with this?
    Yes - Flowers, lunch, something small is okay : (22 votes)
    41 %
    No - Gifts in the work place are inappropriate : (24 votes)
    44 %
    I think you're over reacting : (2 votes)
    4 %
    Other - Please Post : (6 votes)
    11 %
  • Post # 3
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    1925 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I agree with you completely!  However, I think even flowers might be weird.  A plant or lunch are appropriate.  Jewelry?  No, that’s just not okay.  Especially because he has only known her 2 months!

    Post # 4
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    750 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    wow I agree with you all the way that is just weird and a waste of money lol. I think just a card would be OK…or maybe lunch, but that’s it. I don’t think he is trying to impress another woman though, like you said he even did this with his male boss so I think it is him trying to impress his bosses period. But honestly I don’t know that it would…they might find it weird (as I would) and a little off-putting. It might be OK for him to do this if knew them awhile, but like you said it’s only been a couple of months! It’s a little ridiculous.

    Post # 5
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    2849 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I agree that jewelry is not appropriate. Lunch would probably be best in his situation as it isn’t like handing someone a gift. It seems much more casual. 

    Post # 6
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    9627 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2019

    jewellery is definitely not appropriate, i don’t think flowers are either, i think lunch is the best thing ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 7
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    645 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    He sounds like a sweetheart and that he really wants to make an impression. That said, you should try to convince him that jewlery (and religious based in particular) is not the best impression. If not from her, from others in the office. I personally strongly feel that giving such a gift will make her feel uncomforatble and make him looker the poorer. But again, I think it’s really sweet.

    Post # 8
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    14402 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Definitely werid and inappropriate.  Even if she were his boss for years, jewelery is not appropriate imo.  Most companys actually have gift giving rules… at my company the limit is $25 dollar value, otherwise it could be considered bribery or something like that.  I wouldn’t even take her out on a one on one lunch if it were me, I’d organize a group lunch or just give her a card.

    Post # 9
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    3569 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    You are so right. His intentions are in the right place but this isn’t a smart move. One of course like missfrillycoat mention the religious based gift isn’t so smart, second she is a woman which can cause his actions to be misconstrued. I work with a lot of guys and if any of them got me flowers or jewlary I would be highly upset, because it would make me question their intentions, and also I could see other people taking notice and it starting speculation about the nature of our relationship.  I think the standard in most places is a card, and paying for lunch, or a knick knack for her desk.

    Post # 10
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    46328 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    He sounds like his heart is in the right place, but he hasn`t figured out yet that it is completely inappropriate to buy gifts for your boss.

    Post # 11
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    452 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2009

    way inappropriate, not to mention awkward. I personally think a card and maybe casual (like subway haha) dinner would be more than good enough. 

    ETA: I voted other because I personally think even flowers is a bit much and may be seen as something more than it is intended to be seen as, a plant would be one thing, but not flowers. IMO, the only flowers a guy should buy are for his SO or Mom

    Post # 12
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    2775 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    Generally I think workplace gifts are inappropriate, especially “loaded” gifts like jewelry or flowers, and especially as between bosses and subordinates.

    I’d be really uncomfortable with a male coworker giving me a gold cross or flowers.  Even if I didn’t think he was putting the moves on me, I’d be worried about how it looked to others.  My husband wouldn’t like it, either.  Gifting in the workplace can also cause bad feelings for the people who get left out, so I just don’t think it’s a good idea.

    Sounds like your husband has the best of intentions, but if he wants to acknowledge this lady’s birthday he should give her a card and leave it at that.  Maybe treat her to lunch, but that’s it.  

    Post # 13
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    13099 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Jewelery is defintely not appropriate.

    Jobs I’ve been at we’ve always gotten bosses gifts for their birthdays but they were not from individuals; they were from the whole group and whoever wanted to could contribute (like $5 a person).  We usually did flowers and a card along with a giftcard to somewhere they’d enjoy.

    Post # 14
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    10567 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2011

    @Mrs.KMM:  I agree.  When it’s your boss, individual gifts should not be given, group gifts only.  Even takng a boss out to lunch can be an issue.

    Post # 15
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    3175 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    @Mrs.KMM:  I agree. All those gifts sound inappropriate, and I think a group gift would be the best option. That way, even if it’s something that *could* be romantic in another context (like a GC to the spa), it is being given from both women & men.

    If he wants to give something individual in addition to a group gift, I think a card would be appropriate.

    Post # 16
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    1715 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I think if he wants to do something then get the office together for a group gift. Hey if he wants they can all pitch in for GC for zales but not a piece. 

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