Post # 1
My husband and I have serious baby fever and are ready to start TTC. However, I just graduated with my master’s (last week!) and have yet to find a job. I’m torn because I know that it would be better for me career-wise to work a while before getting pregnant but we have wanted to start having children for the past year and I have no idea when I’ll find a job (I’m in a non-profit field and it’s difficult to find work right now).
The other problem is that FMLA will only allow me 12 weeks unpaid leave even if I’ve been working long enough to qualify and I’d like to take more time than that– about 6 months, so I might have to leave the job if I want more than 12 weeks… Financially, we are fortunate that I could be a Stay-At-Home Mom for a few years if I wanted to, but I DO envision going back to work.
My husband and I are both 24 so we technically have time, we just would prefer to be younger parents and want 2 children, about 3 years apart.
If you were in my situation, when would you start TTC?
Thanks for your help!!!!
Post # 3
I’m not sure I would start now. It’s hard enough to get a job with a Master’s degree right after you graduate at our age, I suspect waiting until kids are older would probably be even tougher.
Post # 4
Could you try NTNT instead of full on TTC and see where that leads you? You may not get pregnant right away, so you wouldn’t have to worry about not having enough time in for FMLA but you also wouldn’t necessarily be putting your career plans on hold either.
I’m 25 and pregnant and I didn’t want to let my dream of a career postpone my dream of a family. Granted, I don’t have a masters’ degree (someday!) but my BSN is serving me well right now.
Post # 5
shimmerofheaven- what’s NTNT?
Post # 6
I think it depends on your field; you said non-profit, but was your masters training more for the sake of the title or were you learning skills that you will actively use on a daily basis? If it was more about the general education level/title, then the timing matters less. If you learned skills in your graduate program that you’re going to need to use daily and could lose if you put too much time between your schooling and starting your first job, then you should wait to TTC.
I think no matter what, the 6 months post job should be thrown out. Either do it now or wait a good year before you get pregnant.
Post # 7
@suzieQQ: “Not trying not to” conceive – essentially you pull the goalie but don’t chart or time intercourse, so if it happens, it happens.
Post # 8
You’re still pretty young. I know every situation is different. But I know if it were me I would feel much more comfortable having a job first. Job searching while pregnant, especially in the first trimester just sounds like so much work!
Post # 9
shimmerofheaven- oh, okay. Thanks!
inspiredcreationsbyhaley- There are skills that I’d definitely need to use, that is definitely something to consider… I could volunteer part time to keep them up, but I do worry that it would look strange on my resume.
Gabrielle123- Yes, I’d also have to think about what would happen to my job search if we got pregnant right away… so much to think about!
Post # 10
If you don’t plan on working anyways once you have the baby, then maybe you should just start trying now. Or you could get a job and since you aren’t planning on staying, although I wouldn’t disclose that up front when you get pregnant, it can help you make some extra cash during your pregnancy to put into savings.
A job history of less then 3-5 yrs isn’t going to help when getting a job. So unless you plan on waiting 5yrs to work and then take time off with the baby I would say just start now.
Post # 11
I would say to start NTNT just because it might happen soon and it might take a while, sadly, but you never know. Personally, I would be SO frustrated if we waited up to 5 years or whatever, and then it took another 2+ years. I’m 24 now, and we’ve talked about NTNT at 26 or so. We have some student loans to pay off first… 🙁
Post # 12
I second shimmerofheaven‘s suggestion of NTNT (starting now).
Darling Husband and I are struggling with something similar- I have one year left of grad school and we REALLY want to start having kids! Originally we were going to TTC in the late fall so that the baby would be born a month or so after graduation but we had to postpone. Now we’re trying to figure out how long to wait. We’re leaning toward TTC either March of next year- if I get pregnant right away I’ll just work part time/volunteer at my old internship.
It really just depends on what you’re more willing to sacrifice. If you wait a few years to have children it will probably be better for your career, but if you want to be a “younger parent” more, there’s your decision! Just my opinion. Good luck! 🙂
Post # 13
It scares me that we might not get pregnant right away. I really couldn’t imagine waiting 3-5 years to build up my resume before TTC and then having trouble conceiving- that would be my nightmare.
In terms of priorties, I put family before everything else. NTNT has sounded good so far, I just worry about what will happen when finding a job (God willing) and pregnancy collide!