- Ms Sassy
- 8 years ago
- Wedding: January 2012
So my world came crashing down around me this weekend. While at a birthday dinner for my grandmother, we were all discussing our cruise trip to Hawaii for next year…you know the one where/when we are planning on getting married. Although it’s not official that we are engaged or discussed extreme details, so I can’t get too pissed.
Anyhoo…so my mother was telling BF’s parent’s about the cost of the family cabin that she (my mother) & grandmother will be sharing. It’s a 2 bedroom cabin so it’s on the expansive side (we don’t want my grandmother to have a room by herself bc of her age & medical conditions). My mother explained to his parents the price and that they do not have to get a cabin of this size & price and to go on the website to look at other cabins. Everyone agrees and we continue on with the birthday celebration.
Fast forward to yesterday morning. Boyfriend or Best Friend wakes up to an email from his parent’s saying they don’t want to go on the cruise-it’s too much money!! WTF!?!? Now this is coming from the lady who the previous weekend was saying that she can’t wait for me & her son to get married (we were at a relative’s bridal shower). She was saying that the cabin that my mother was getting was out of her price range and if they (his parents) can’t find something for less than $2k a person-including air then they will not go. This price does not exist…we live in Boston for crying out loud. You cannot find airfare from Boston to Hawaii and then cruise around the islands for less than that!!
So now they don’t want to go 🙁 My mom already put down her deposit (although she can get 100% back due to the time frame.) I mean it’s not like we just planned this trip last week and expect everyone to pay in full by next month. The cruise is more than a year away (July 2011) and we have been talking about this cruise for the past 2+ years. We have told everyone to stop getting us Christmas & birthday presents and to save that money towards Hawaii.
Personally I think part of the issue is last weekend at the bridal shower, BF’s mom really liked the place it was being held at. And was saying how she could see us getting married there. I do not want to get married in some rinky-dink town by his parents. I don’t want to get married with a bunch of people at the wedding that I don’t know. Neither Boyfriend or Best Friend nor I like to be the center of attention, which is why we always said we wouldn’t have a big wedding.
I am going to throw a tantrum and be a bitch, but I am not budging an inch on getting married in Hawaii. I have always wanted a wedding in Hawaii-a small wedding for many reasons. There are not a lot of people coming on this cruise. It will be us, my mom, my grandmother, his parents (hopefully) and his brother (who his parents will probably pay for -but that is a whole other story that I can roll my eyes at.).
I want my beach, I want my lavender dress. I want the typical Israel Kamakawiwo’ole song playing the background. I want the small & intimate. I can’t wait much longer..I’m not getting any younger. I would like to have kids some day and with a medical condition it will take me longer to conceive-if at all. The older I get the chances of us having kid’s drops.
I thought by making the wedding small and having what some may consider an elopement it would make planning less stressful…yeah..not so much pfft!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!