(Closed) Worried about family and friends behavior

posted 6 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
252 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I am kinda worried about the same thing. I would (and did) just have an honest talk with the folks your concerned about, or heck, make your sister do it. She can be honest about the venue and the religouse relatives with out looking like a bridezilla. Maybe plan on having an after party at a local bar to appease the rowdy ones. 🙂


Oh, By The Way, were date twins!!!! lemme know how it goes for sure!

Post # 4
1271 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

The venue, who will shut the event down for open drunkness, will stop serving to people who are out of control.  So rest assured that it won’t be a huge problem.  Stick with your no-hard-alcohol and let the bartender have carte blanche.

Post # 6
11747 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Relax have fun try not to worry about it – You really can’t control how other people behave other than if they get out of control, they can be asked to leave.  I just don’t think it’s worth it to ruin your day worrying about this type of thing.

Post # 7
9548 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Also, skip the cocktail hour (you could jsut serve light apps and lemonade/punch). You could even wait to open the bar until after dinner. Then people have less time to drink. And definately stick to just beer and wine. And let the bar tender know that you have no problem with them denying someone drinks if they’re too drunk.

Post # 8
1575 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Honey, what will be will be. You can’t un-invite them. Most will behave suitably, I am sure. You can worry all you want but it won’t change a thing so you might as well relax.

Post # 9
4192 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

The bartenders can limit the alcohol served. You can also ask them to stop serving during dinner, and to close the bar half an hour before your reception’s over.

Post # 10
4415 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I think most people tend to judge how much is okay to drink based on cues from other people around them — in other words, nobody wants to be the ONE guy that’s drunk in a room full of tastefully sober people. My wedding was a shit-show of drunkenness, but the guests were taking cues from the bride and her father who was footing the bill, and we were both loaded 😉

Definitely a bit of word of mouth to remind people what is and is not appropriate can’t hurt, though!

Post # 11
3580 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I was going to suggest that since she insisted on having them invited, that she gets to (soberly) babysit them to ensure that they don’t get too disrespectful.  And as long as they’re not sneaking in their own liquor (this is already planned for my friend’s wedding – their family is not happy about the no liquor rule), the bartender should be able to handle it. 

Post # 12
59 posts
Worker bee

I agree that there isn’t much you can do about people’s choices except to limit their access to the crazy 🙂 

That is why…

We are having a 3:30 wedding with a cocktail hour from 4 to 5 where only beer and wine will be served. We will add in three choices of hard liquor with mixers beginning after dinner. Our reception will go from 5 until 10:30 and I’m having “last call” and shutting down the bar at 9:30-9:45. We are having an after-party at the hotel lounge from 11-12, so if people want to be obnoxious, they can do it there. That’s my plan. Keeping fingers crossed that it works…

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