(Closed) Worried about FI

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 47
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

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@Twizbe:  

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@kate02121:  

I agree that *just* not knowing the travel info or *just* not getting a text from him isn’t necessarily fishy, it’s the two together that don’t add up. At least in my experience, international/out of network travel/phones that die easily is even MORE good reason to always exchange travel information! If she knew what hotel he was staying in, she could at least call there and leave a message.

IDK, maybe all the anti-terrorism training I have to take prior to travel has me overlyprecautious, but situations like this are quite avoidable.

Post # 48
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

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@Anna10-05-2014:  Aww well you know him best. I hope that he’s ok! Keeping fingers crossed.

Post # 49
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

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@terpalum10:  I definitely agree. 

Best case scenario, it’s a great “lesson learned” for OP and her Fiance. I will tell you that I have spent the past few minutes putting together my travel details for the next few weeks for my husband…so it was a lesson learned for me! 

Post # 50
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

OP, I would be beside myself with worry, but as other posters have said, I would also not have let him leave without letting me know where he was staying, flight details, etc. I have my fingers crossed for you that there’s a simple explanation for it all…! Let us know when you hear anything 🙂

Post # 51
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

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@kate02121:  Good idea to start! I’ve had very last minute trips where I’m literally sitting in the airport waiting for a flight, texting DH my travel info haha.

There’s so much more to consider than just the plane crashing – obviously that’s not terribly likely. What’s (sadly) far more likely is an act of terrorism, a natural disaster, kidnapping, accidents, theft, the list goes on. Like they say, luck favors the prepared!

Post # 52
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Bumble bee

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@BellaDee:  Agreed.

Too many hours have passed.  SO, Fiance or DH….If you are in a relationship, and you care about one another, you let each other know your traveling plans.  Hell, my XDH still gives me his itinerary when he leaves town incase something comes up with the kids! It’s common courtesy.  Hotels DO have phones, next to the beds, that he could pick up and say “Hey, my phone is dead, quick call to let you know I’ve arrived safely”.  

Doesn’t take that much effort to do so. 

 

Post # 53
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

This is daily life for me. My husband is an aircrewman and when he deploys (Or even flies on a day to day basis) I will not hear from him until much, much, much later on. It worried me at first but then I realized he wasn’t dead when nobody was contacting me and there were no planecrashes.

You have the ability to call his phone, I don’t have that luxury. All of his electronics need to be off until he is free from work, so I don’t get a “I’m fine. Call later” text.

So, for me this is normal and I’d probably give it until tomorrow to freak out, but like I said, this is normal for me and I’ve become desensitized to it.

Post # 54
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

He left at 4 AM on Tuesday and it’s now been over a day since you heard from him?  I would be incredibly suspicious.  A dead cell phone doesn’t take that long to charge.  It honestly sounds to me like he doesn’t *want* to be in touch.  

Post # 55
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

I don’t know if I’d be suspicious (annoyed that he didn’t leave any information), but I’d definitely be worried.  It really could be anything though (i.e. not getting service, can’t find his charger, lost phone, etc).  Hopefully he will touch base with you soon.

Post # 56
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

Any word? Hope he’s okay!

Post # 57
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2006

Keep us posted! More than likely it’s a perfectly reasonable explanation.

Post # 58
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I travel for business and my DH rarely knows my flight and hotel info.  But I would never not call him within 24hrs.  I know he would be freaked out if that happened.  I always text him as soon as I land and I wouldn’t even think to go to bed without calling and saying goodnight.

I hope you hear from him soon!  I would be worried out of my mind.

Post # 59
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Update pleeeeeeaaaaaase!

Ah I feel like I’m stressing like this is my FI!  I’m so worried for you!

Post # 60
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Next time I would tell him to make sure he calls, whenever I fly anywhere or drive on a long trip I always text DH to let him know I am safe. Something does sound fishy though, even if his phone died he could call you collect or from hotel. Plus you have no flight or hotel info, that’s kind of suspicious.

Post # 61
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2017 - Baton Rouge, LA

i’m super curious to know if he’s ok & what the deal is. there’s been a few times where i get crazypants when FI’s phone is either in a vehicle, dead, or he went to sleep. But he was never on the other side of the country. I couldn’t deal! Update pahhhleeeaazzeeee

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