(Closed) Worried about FI

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 77
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

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@Hyperventilate:  +1

I don’t always get the luxury of hearing from my DH but that is because of his career. It sounds like this situation may be caused by your FIs career so I wouldn’t stress.

I remember when my DH left to his first duty station and I didn’t hear from him for like two days! It wasn’t fishy because he was in a new place trying to get things done.

Op just try and relax 🙂

He probably has a good reason for not being able to contact you or anyone else for that matter! If you don’t hear from him until tomorrow morning (his time) then I would be a little more concerned but as of now I think you are spreading yourself thin! Don’t listen to everyone because YOU know your Fiance best and you don’t want others doubts get in the way of your reason 🙂 

 

Post # 78
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

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@BellaDee: No, of course not, just at the moment she called. If he declined her call, he was likely busy. Bees here seem to be trying to make OP worry even more than necessary. 

Post # 79
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

I hope he’s ok. I don’t feel like you need to worry about something being fishy, but I would definitely mention that you are less than impressed that he failed to tell you he made it ok…bad reception or not, I am sure he is in an area with phones.

Post # 80
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

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@Anna10-05-2014:  He takes his work so seriously that he can’t spare three seconds to contact his Fiance to let her know he is OK? I don’t know how I would feel about that…

Post # 82
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

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@mtbikelover:  +1.  We both travel a ton for work and would NEVER go more than 24 hours without at least a quick call.  I’d be majorly pissed if I were you!  Hopefully nothing is wrong *knock on wood*, but you should definitely set him straight on how much he should keep in touch with you so you don’t worry.

Post # 83
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

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@TLDR:  My husband and I have Verizon and neither phone go straight to voicemail unless the phone is turned off. If we have no reception or poor reception, it will ring a few times and then go to voicemail. I don’t know if this is true for other phones or providers, but both of our families have Verizon and this has always always always been true for us, especially since my father works in very remote areas with poor or no signal, and it will always ring a few times then go to voicemail.

Post # 84
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I just don’t understand how he could not think to call you when he landed.  Or got to the hotel. When I travel, I call DH as soon as I get off the plane to let him know I got there safely.

Post # 85
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

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@Anna10-05-2014:  i don’t think you need to be concerned about ‘fishy’. but he doesn’t need to have your number memorized, he would just power up his phone, and use the hotel landline. or send you an email on wifi. or a facebook message. or call his parents, or sister or friend and get them to message you – i don’t think he’s cheating on you like some pps – i just think he’s being really inconsiderate and i’d be really, really mad!

Post # 86
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

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@Anna10-05-2014:  My Fiance is the same way, he’ll go to his parents for a coffee, and end up there for five hours with his phone dead or on silent. I don’t think twice about it, because I’m comfortable with the fact that he isn’t lying to me. 

I know how much you can worry when you don’t hear from them, especially with a trip. I know my Fiance can get so wrapped up in what he’s doing that contacting me doesn’t cross his mind until the day winds down and he remembers that he hasn’t called. Then feels terrible about not calling, haha.

Post # 87
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

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@MrsNewDay:  +1 

 

I guess thats just my relationship with my DH, but whenever we go away, we find someway to communicate. No matter what, even taking a bathroom break and texting while I pee! lol 

I know DH would have already been on a plane looking for me. I’m really not kidding. I know I would have already called his work by now… 

Post # 88
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

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@Hyperventilate:  

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@Anna10-05-2014:  

Good to know about the phones! I guess now I know not to assume people are ignoring my phone calls if it rings once or twice and goes to vm haha! 

Post # 89
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

the cell reception and busy with work is bull ish to me.  not one human can function clearly let alone work a career with absolutely no rest or sleep inbetween for 30 hours.  that is humanely impossible.  

If he has time to pee, shit, eat and sleep he has time to shoot a text or a I’m ok or i’m busy phone call.

Sorry guys, wake up!

Post # 90
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

That is bullshit.  There are ways he can get in touch with you.  I’m not going to jump to the “He’s cheating” conclusion but what he’s done is not okay.  I’m sure that wherever he’s staying, he has access to a landline telephone.  If he doesn’t have your number memorized he can look it up in his cell phone, regardless of whether or not he has service.

Does this guy work underground in mines or something?  If not, I don’t see why he’s completely incapable of reaching out to you in some way (unless he’s a fighter pilot or whatever the hell else bee’s husbands are that prevents them from being able to make contact)

Post # 91
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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@TLDR: Not always. Sometimes, when my husbands phone has been dead it has still rang once or twice before going to voicemail.

I can’t believe you still haven’t heard from him OP! 

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