(Closed) Worried about FI

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 107
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Holy cow I hope this is fake. A few weeks ago my husband wasn’t home when I got home at 8PM and he didn’t answer his phone. I waited about 5 minutes before driving to his office and I was TERRIFIED that he was unconscious or something. Luckily, he was sitting at his desk and had just gotten wrapped up in work and thought he told me he would be late. I was pissed and he probably won’t ever do that again. I would have called the police by now if I were in the situation of the OP…

 

Post # 108
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

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@Anna10-05-2014:  I don’t think he’s cheating but that silly head needs to find a way to contact you next time, wheather it’s at the air port, hotel or a pay phone. 

Post # 109
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Buzzing bee

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@beachbride1216:  My SO travels a bunch (usually last-minute trips), and it really doesn’t cross his mind to give me very specific itinerary information. I don’t think it’s necessarily fishy that the OP’s Fiance didn’t forward a specific itinerary to the her. I also usually don’t give him specifics unless it’s directly relevant.

I think keeping in touch is paramount, though. SO and I definitely keep in touch when one of us is traveling. Depending on the trip, we can be out of touch for hours at a time, but based on the OP’s situation I definitely think it’s inconsiderate that her Fiance hasn’t gotten in touch with her yet.

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@Anna10-05-2014:  Honestly I would just sit tight, try not to worry, and let him call you. When he does, I’m sure he’ll tell you what has been going on and you can take it from there. There is no use in worrying right now. You know his phone is on and that he was probably too busy to answer his call earlier. 

Post # 111
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Newbee

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@Anna10-05-2014:  You said “I do know someone he works with and I plan on contacting them if i don’t get a message from Fiance.”

Well, it’s been a million hours and he hasn’t messaged you. This is the time to call that person!

I’d be worried that maybe he’s hurt or something bad happened and no one was able to contact you about it. Hopefully this coworker can shed light on the situation.

Post # 112
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Bumble bee

You know…..if you send a FB message, it lets you know if it’s been “seen” or not….You said a few times about FB messaging, did you send one? has he “seen” it yet? If not, send one and see if he checks it?  Make it long so he’ll have to open the entire thing to read it.  not just what pops up on his screen, if it does.  

 

Post # 113
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

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@Anna10-05-2014:  If he lost his phone at the airport, on the plane, etc., and he doesn’t have a laptop,  he could just not have a good way to reach you. I don’t even know my FI’s phone number by heart, so if I lost my phone on a business trip I would have no way to reach him if not for my laptop.

Also, I travel for work almost every week. I’ve never given my Fiance my flight or hotel information. Half the time he can’t remember where I’m going until the day I fly out.  For those of you who are trying to insinuate that her Fiance is up to something dirty because she doesn’t have his minute to minute itinerary, it’s called TRUST.  

Post # 114
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

You should definitely contact his work OP… I’d be so so worried Frown

Post # 115
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012 - Chateau Briand

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@rickhurst35:  that’s a really good idea! Also, not sure if you have iPhones, but sometimes iMessage lets you know if they’ve read it or not? Any luck with that maybe? Hope you hear from him soon!

Post # 116
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

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@Anna10-05-2014:  I travel for work and I have been asked to leave with 4 hours to get ready before, so I get the last minute trip. Chances are, if they needed him out there NOW it was because something was going very poorly. As a company, you don’t dish out big bucks for a last minute flight unless something is wrong.

A 4 am flight sucks and it’s super early. Unless he sleeps like a baby on the plane, he was probably exhausted when he arrived, and it was probably about 9 am local time when he landed and he went straight to work. If things are in bad shape, he probably put in 10-14 hours of work and possibly passed out as soon as he walked in the room. Then he woke up and had to go right to work again. (and possibly left his dying phone at the hotel?)

I have been in work situations where I didn’t have access to my phone for 14 hours and the last thing I was going to do was check facebook at work.

That to me, is a completely logical series of events. Much more logical than him having a last minute fake business trip to meet up with a mistress. Who does that last minute? Why not take the time to perfect your story? Plus, how would he know someone in CA? I don’t get the “fishy” thing, but I also travel a ton and have forgotten to call my Fiance when I did have the free 2 minutes to do so.

Post # 118
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

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@BellaDee:  +1. I ve never heard of such extreme phone issues! i have verizon and only lost service driving through the new mexico desert. im sitting at my desk now. i can think of 20 ways to contact DH. what kind of business leaves their employees without any way to contact the outside world?  this is just too bizzare.

Post # 119
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Buzzing bee

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@mixtaperomance:  You have to flip a swich in the iPhone settings to let other people know when you’ve read received messages.

Post # 121
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

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@chic_and_fabulous:  exactly. i feel like folks are jumping the gun on this.

 

my husband travels a lot for work i rarely know his flight number i know that when he goes to Nevada that he stays at a Holiday Inn (work discount deal) and i know tht when he’s in the field i won’t hear from him for 12-16 hours and then if he has to go to some schmancy dinner afterwards it could be even longer. it’s frustrating but it’s also work.

 

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