- Boston Bee
- 8 years ago
A little background information… I met my SO through a mutual friend last summer (about 8 months ago) after we both got out of long-term relationships. Neither of us were looking for another relationship, but we really hit it off. We started “officially” dating 6 months ago, and everything has been so wonderful! I’m in my last year of law school, and he just started, so he’ll have 2 more years left after I graduate. I’m 24, and he’s 29. We both live in Tallahassee.
About 3 weeks after we started dated, I got a job offer from a federal district court judge in Panama City to be his law clerk for 2 years. Any lawyer bees out there will know that this isn’t really an offer you can turn down because the position is realllllly hard to get. And 3 weeks into a relationship, I wasn’t really ready to change any plans I had already made for myself career-wise.
Well Panama City is about an hour and 45 minutes away from Tallahassee, and I move in July. I feel bad complaining/worrying about this because I know some bees are in transatlantic LDRs, but it’s really stressing me out. We spend EVERY night together right now and spend as much time with each other as we can. I miss him during the day when I’m at work. I can’t imagine not being with him that much.
We both know that this is something special, and I’m fairly confident we both see marriage as a definite possiblity in the future. Last weekend he said, “I think you’re it for me.” ::heart melts:: And there are other things too… he said we should start saving for a trip to Brazil for the World Cup in 2014. I was watching Bride Wars and made a comment that I would never wear my mom’s dress because it was trendy back in the 70s (definitely not now!), and he said, “You can just wear my mom’s.” (Silly boy) And we were talking about what he wanted to do after law school, and he said “Get a good job and buy you a big ring.” We’ve met each other’s families and friends and all that stuff too.
Needless to say, it seems like we both see marriage in our future, but I afraid of how the long distance is going to affect our relationship. Things are so great right now, and he has every quality that I want (or didn’t know that I wanted!) in another person. There seriously isn’t anything about him that I want to change. I just know that I’m going to miss him so much during the week (the plan is to see each other every weekend since the drive isn’t too bad). Luckily, the LDR will only be for 2 years because my job ends in 2013, and that’s when he graduates, so we’ll both be relocating at the same time.
So some questions I’m curious about from other LDR bees: How was the transition from seeing each other all the time to periodically? In what ways did the LDR affect your relationship? How do you cope with the “missing him” feeling everyday? I’ve never been in a LDR, and I’m not really sure what to expect.
Thanks for reading my wicked long vent!