Post # 1
I have a general anxiety problem but it can get worse when I’m stressed out or have to deal with large groups of people. For the most part I survive by always having a bottle of water on me and there’s usually a plastic bag in my handbag/bowl hidden in my car.
My OH is really supportive and is trying to help me get better by setting me challenges (get on a bus for a 5 minute journey, go to a shop and wander around for 5 minutes etc etc) but I’m really worried about how I’m going to make it through the ceremony without my bowl/bottle of water. We’re only having a short civil ceremony, no readings etc, but I’m really scared in case I throw up in the ceremony or something (stupid I know, but it’s my big fear!!)
Has anyone else had this worry, how have you got over it?
Post # 3
@Ratchit99: I have terrible anxiety and I survived my ceremony & reception with 5htp. It’s like a natural form of xanax. I took 50mg when I woke up, and another 50mg 2 hours before and I felt fantastic. I didn’t cry for feel anxious. I was smiling the whole time and felt amazing. Zero side effects.
Post # 4
@Ratchit99: with anxiety like that, you may want to see a doctor.
Post # 5
@Ratchit99: I also have an anxiety issue. I usually have water with me as well and athough I sometimes feel nausous, I’ve never needed to carry a bag or bowl and I’ve never physically vomited. But the fear is there for my wedding day. I am trying not to focus on the nerves, but more on the excitement. I find also having gum help… it takes away that gaggy feeling for me.
Anxiety is hard, if not nearly impossible to control. All you can really do is take deep breaths (slow in through the nose and out your mouth). On the day of, I plan on just taking it easy. I want to try not to rush things and just remember that the wedding can’t happen without me. If I need a second to regroup, get some fresh air, then everyone will just have to wait.
I hope you don’t vomit on your day (and I hope I don’t either lol) All you can do is try not to focus on that. Good luck!!
Post # 6
@aggiemae: +1 maybe a prescription for something can alleviate that issue
Post # 7
@aggiemae I have and am due to go to counselling in the next month to help me improve
@CarterLove & MrsSweetT
Thanks both, it’s good to know that other people have had the same issue (if that makes sense!!) My Maid/Matron of Honor is wonderful and has a whole chillout thing planned for the morning to make sure I’m A Ok on the day, and I’m thinking of asking if I can stealth a bottle of water under one of the front seats to take a swift drink from during the register signing but I guess we’ll see!
I have Rescue remedy which was recommended but hopefully as you say I can stay positive and cruise through!
Post # 8
I have terrible anxiety too. I get really bad heat rash all over my chest, red and blotchy which is my biggest day of nightmare. But i think just knowing it is your day, and you will be so drunken on the emotions, hopefully our anxiety wont get the best of us.
Post # 9
@Ratchit99: Anxiety is never “stupid” and I admire you for being proactive. *hugs* I lived with anxiety for many years. Several years ago I developed heart problems and was prescribed propanolol. As an unexpected side effect it diminished my anxiety considerably. You may want to consider a mild medication, of course try it out ahead of time, to see how it works. Wishing you the very best. *more hugs*
Post # 10
@Ratchit99: Yeah, yours sounds more severe than mine so I am sure any kind of counselling with help. It is a really terrible feeling (anxiety) but that day will be so exciting and happy, that may just take all those anxious feelings away.
Sounds like you have great support as well. Lean on those people as much as you need to.
Post # 11
I have some moderate social anxiety. I’ve never had a full-blown panic attack, in the typical sense of the phrase, but I do get panicky in social situations. Mostly I just avoid anything that’s past my limit.
Part of the reason my FH and I decided to have a private wedding in Jamaica was my anxiety. The thought of standing in front of the 100-150+ people we were going to invite to a big church wedding just got to be too much. My mom still insisted that she gets to see me get married, so we’re going to the courthouse before we go to Jamaica, but the 15 or so people that will be there, most of which are family, is a lot easier to deal with.
Have you been to a doctor about it?
Post # 12
I agree with the doctor idea. Maybe you can get prescribed something to calm you down just for the day.
Post # 13
Here’s an option – I assume your officiant will be behind/at a podium of some sort, they usually have something up front to indicate ‘stuff is happening up here’. Store your water in the podium before the ceremony starts, let your officiant know and give him some sort of indication/signal you’ll use to let him know you need the water. Otherwise, if you’re carrying flowers, you can probably carry a small bottle of water up and no one will notice.
Post # 14
@Ratchit99: Aw I’m sorry you have to deal with this! To be honest, I don’t see why you couldn’t have a bottle of water up there? Take it as a challenge to find a super pretty bottle you can keep with you! Whatever, I promise no one is going to care if you drink some water partway through. You do what you need to do!
Post # 15
Awww thanks guys, you’re all really lovely. Yes, there will be a table at the front that we will be infront of so I could sneaky it in I think 🙂
im hoping I’ll have improved a tad by then as we work on it every week, giving me little challenges etc, as you say however hopefully I’ll be so psyched to actually be there doing it that everything else will fade away. We’re all arriving the night before at the hotel it’s happening at and we’ve pretty much booked every room so hopefully I’ll just settle in to things with all my friends 🙂